(Closed) TTC & Husband's nerves…anyone else?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mrs_pugetsound:  I would say it is very very very normal. When I was on the BCP and ny husband came in me for the first time (sorry to be blunt) it was a big deal to him as it is a huge thing to trust each other with. 

Fast forward and now we are TTC and have pulled the goalie after using the pull out method for ages. Was it different the first time? YES massively! We could potentially be creating a mini-seabass!!! If you didnt get a little freaked out about that, then I dont know what would move you!

Best of luck TTC πŸ™‚  

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are going to start TTC in October and I never really thought abut it being different. I am going to have to get back to you on that. Now I am nervous. lol 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yes this is quite normal. And I think it’s a good sign! It means he’s realised the full weight of what you are doing and that he is very likely to be a dad soon. I think it’s a sign that they are aware of the responsibility and take it seriously πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

Haha, I’m off the pill now and we’re TTC this month for the first time.  The other night, we “pulled the goalie” (he used to pull out just for the fun of it) and as SOON as he was done he sighed and was like, “well, you’re going to be pregnant now”.  Lol!  I haven’t O’d yet this month and I tried explaining that to him, but it was still pretty funny.  We’re both ready to have a kid, we’re both just a bit nervous about it.  It’s normal!

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

The first (and second) month after we pulled the goalie Mr. A was constantly asking if I was pregnant. I am not even kidding… If I had a head ache, or was hungry, or sleepy, or crampy, or anything… he would ask.  I also feel like he was a bit more shy about doing the deed because “If I wan’t already pregnant I could be!” (Not that he didn’t want to be, it would just be a lot of changes all at once)

But after a few months of not magically getting ista-pregnant, things have returned to more or less normal. He still gives me a funny look if I tell him my stomach hurts though!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It sounds normal to me.  Guys have it in their head for so long that getting someone pregnant is the worst possible outcome from having sex.  It’s probably tough to make that adjustment!  I’m sure he will get used to it.  Practice makes perfect, right? πŸ˜‰

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it’s normal to be nervous to an extent. We pulled the goalie this month and I felt kind of weird about it whereas Darling Husband was totally fine. It was strange at first to not try to prevent pregnancy in any way, but I adjusted quickly.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We have been avoiding getting pregnant for four years and to soon do the opposite will sure be weird but exciting at the same time. πŸ˜‰ 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mrs_pugetsound:  Babymaking should be fun! Don’t limit yourselves. πŸ˜‰

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I haven’t officially started trying but hopefully will be soon– but I get overwhelmed and nervous just thinking about it~  It definitely sounds normal to me,  it is a life changing event (if it works lol).

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think it is absolutely normal to feel nervous! We spend years trying NOT to get pregnant, it can sometimes be an awkward transition. Darling Husband has experienced something a little different… performance anxiety, for lack of a better term! He had a hard time finishing once or twice last month because for the first time the pressure was to finish as apposed to NOT finish (we used POM along with charting). And after 5 straight days of sex he was as relieved as me when we opted for a night w/o it Wink

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s normal! Ever since we’ve been married we used the POM and this month we really started TTC. My DH was nervous the first time but has definately gotten used to it. Not sure if we will conceive though. Everytime we finish he says you better hurry and go to the bathroom so it doesnt make a mess! How am i ever supposed to get pregnant when it just slides back out(sorry so blunt) in the toilet? I know it just takes one sperm but ugh!! I just O’d yesterday or the day before and faked a pee and ran back to bed so i could leave it in and let it work longer! LOL.  

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I, myself, kinda have anxiety about it as well.  Not necessarily my husband, only because he said “Just surprise me.”  Never really thought about it as his way of not getting nervous over the whole situation.  Must be nice not being in the “know”.  LOL!  I am waiting till my birthday next month.  Not really sure why, but I thought it would be something to look forward to and a great b-day present to myself.  I am not patient so we’ll see how long that lasts. πŸ™‚

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