- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have a predicament that I am hoping I can get some advice on. Thank you in advance for any and all advice. I should warn that this is also part rant. Please skip to the end in bold if you don’t want the details. 🙂
I currently work for a small business for a husband and wife “team”. For clarity I will just call them “The husband” and “The wife”. The husband is the director of the business and the wife is a coworker. There are only four of us who work in the office, although usually it is only me that is actually here. The other employees are all tradesmen out on the road. Long story short, I used to work for the husband’s father. They did not get on well and I heard many horror stories about him while I worked there. (He used to work there himself until the conflics grew too severe and he left to start his own business – the one I currently work for). Well my old workplace closed and I am now working for my old manager’s son “The Husband”. I’m still not sure how that happened. He swooped in like a vulture when the old business closed and bought (and stole, I have recently learnt) what he could. I had a bad feeling but he seemed nice and one does not simply refuse a job in the current climate.
Anyway, it was going ok for a while. The work was nightmarish as they had not been organised and expected me to come in and singlehandedly fix up their 4-5 years of disorganisation but to start with they were at least been treating me with some respect and being polite. The wife and I got on quite well as we shared the same office space and everything was more or less normal.
Cut to today and the past six months have been almost unbearable. As they got more and more comfortable with me their true personalities are coming through and I am seeing two very unstabe, angry and abusive humans. He is very abusive towards all his staff that have been around for a while and particularly abusive towards the wife. He treats her terribly, yelling at her and belittling her. They often have screaming matches right in front of me while I pretend I can’t hear it. He is terribly racist, somehting I am strongly opposed to, and he makes terrible comments about people of other races behing their backs or says things like “Call that habib-curry-munching cretin back and tell him etc etc” or, (to his 5 year old son), “Put some shoes on. You look like a black coon pr*ck”. It’s completely disgusting and it makes me utterly sick. He abuses his employees, tricking them into having reduced pay or working overtime without payment. He tried to do this to me, and suceeded for a while until I had had enough.
I was working 5 extra hours a week for less than my award rate and no overtime. I finally put my foot down and told him I was not happy with my rates and that if he wanted me to work overtime, I would have to be paid for it. I was polite and referenced him to my award and legal entitlements. It was the scariest thing I have ever done. He did not react well. He was careful not to yell at me but he turned purple and tried to manipulate me into backing down. It didn’t work. He is very clever not to directly abuse his employees but instead manipulates and threatens them so it is hard to actually pin point where he is being unnacceptable or not. Anyway, since then I have had big problems with him and the wife. She has gotten very lazy and gets me to do many of her tasks. She also picks at every little thing I do and makes out like I am lazy. My workload is immense. I have been here for almost a year now and am still catching up on their five years of no organisation. It’s slowly getting better but my daily workload is still huge. It is physically impossible to do everything they ask. I have advised them of my concerns and their answer is “I don’t care. Get it done”. They are constantly rude to me, and I have found out that they have been lying to the tradesmen about me and telling them horrible things about me that aren’t true. <br /><br />I have been nothing but polite to them and have been doing as much as I can. It is a terrible work environment. There have been times where I have had to pick up their dogs mess or had their untrained kid screaming in my ear or blowing snot on me, not to mention the way they treat eachother and myself. I have been sick three times this year (I never get sick so often) and have also had to have my heart monitored for 24 hours once because I was getting major palpatations. My home life is less enjoyable because I can’t stop worrying about work. I am also reluctant to add the stress of job searching onto my already mad schedule. Where I live there are easily 500 people applying for every job. I know people that have been looking actively for over a year. This is why employers like mine can take advantage of their employees.
<br /><br />My dilemma is this. Darling Husband and I are TTC. I may be conceivning as I type this, I don’t know. It’s been a few months now and nothing so far but it could be just around the corner.
Should I try to look for another job knowing that I will be quitting within a few months to have a baby? I shan’t be going back to work for a few years after our babies are born and I am hoping not to work right until my due date so it could only be a few short months until I would have to quit. I somehow feel as though it is wrong to do that to a future employer who would almost certainly not hire me if they knew.
Or should I soldier on here? I worry that the stress of this job will be harmful to my pregnancy and I don’t want my unborn baby to have to listen to people yelling, throwing things and slamming doors every day. Darling Husband says if it gets too horrible and I can’t go on anymore to just walk out. He has a good job so we can survive on one income. At the moment we are using my entire income to pay off extra on our mortgage, so we are currently about ten years ahead although we have only had it for two years. I would like to keep doing this and pull my own weight but I am getting increasingly less able to cope.
I hope this makes sense. Please feel free to ask questions. Thank you for your help. 🙂
- This topic was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by Womble.