(Closed) TTC is an emotional roller coaster! So frustrated!

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Merelton:  I started charting and temping.. Once I saw that typically O’d on cd17 it was game on lol from cd13-cd24 we made sure we had sex once a day and we alternated positions, him on top and from behind. I would then lay there for about 30 minutes before id get up. It felt really good to be in control (as much as we could be) We also prayed together about getting pregnant. That month we got pregnant! Don’t get too discouraged! It’s only been four months (which I know can feel like forever) I would give it two more really good tries before going to the dr! Good luck

Post # 4
4575 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Merelton:  Hi! and I am sorry to hear your frustrations. I have been there for over a year and I will tell you that the ladies in the TTC board are the most helpful and more caring ladies you will ever meet.  First, you are not alone.  I felt the same way just after my second failed cycle.  I did everything I was told to do, I took my temperature, I used OPKs, I DTD EOD and I still didnt get results.  However, many ladies here have gotten their BFPs just when they thought they reached the end of their rope.  If you dont want to be tested yet, that’s totally fine and totally up to you, however, i suggest that you consider to get to this point after a certain cycles and you talk to your Darling Husband about it.  If you think its him, then find the right way to approach this to him. It might not be easy for him to understand, but he might also be on board and go for testings.  After all, men testing are much easier than ours.  I got my BFP after 3 cycles of IUI and after 13 cycles.  Dont give up.  There is always a way, lady, and i am sure your BFP is around the corner. GL and if you ever need to talk, feel free to contact me (PM me) 🙂

Post # 5
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Merelton:  Try to keep heart! I know it’s hard. Both times for me it took more than 6 months…and nothing was wrong with either of us.

Post # 6
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Merelton:  If you haven’t already done charting, I suggest you give that a try for a few cycles before you give up completely or question your husband’s sperm quality.

If you have tried charting and temping, then you should talkto your doctor. Perhaps you don’t have a long enough luetal phase or something. Or perhaps it could be your husband, but I would jump those hurdles after you have tried charting and temping. I would also use OPKs so you know when you ovulate. You could be ovulating later or earlier than you think.

Post # 7
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree that you should try charting. It’s an amazing way to get to know what is going on with your body as well. Go on Fertility Friend, take all the courses they offer to get the hang of everything, and get to know your body and the signs it gives that ovulation is approaching.

The journey of TTC is crazy and scary and unknown…and just thinking about the possibility of infertility is terrifying.  Try not to focus on that.  You haven’t been trying as long as so many other couples, and your BFP could be right around the corner!  Good Luck!

Post # 8
1531 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Merelton:  welcome to the roller coaster!  Its been 5 months for us – but only 4 cycles for us (long cycles grrrr).  I starting taking ovulation predictor tests last cycle and started charting this month.  Charting my BBT calms me…I like seeing how my body is working.  Anyway – good luck and hang in there! Join the TTC boards – especially the POAS board for the month, then you can post all the crazy symptom spotting you are doing and emotions you are feeling with people who are on the same roller coaster!

Post # 9
1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’m in Cycle 7. While I was concerned a little (rightfully or not) after a few cycles, it was crushing after the sixth one. I also think it’s legitimate if you know that sex is well-timed during those 6 cycles to seek out a doctor. For whatever daft reason – age discrimination being among them, in my case, as I’m younger than 35 – I’m holding out a while longer.

Using OPKs over a few cycles is a good idea – generally you’ll get an idea of when you ovulate. And it probably would help to be getting busy around the time you’ll conceive, even if you haven’t yet gotten a positive OPk. I’m fortunate in that I usually have a fade-in pattern, so when a second line appears, I know it’ll be positive within a few days. That’s when I start getting busy.

Once you get that positive, you’ll *usually* ovulate within 1 – 2 days. Some women don’t catch the surge until later – when they may have less than a day before they ovulate.


But all in all, your odds of getting pregnant are no greater if you schedule sex like that than if you have sex at least every other day. If you don’t do the former, go for the latter.


But it’s still early. Even statistically speaking (and the stats vary WIDELY – you give me the impression you’ve never before used OPKs, so I’ll just assume that), most women aren’t pregnant at the 3-to-4 month mark. An estimated 60 – 70% are pregnant after 6 months (so, we’ll assume after 3 – 4 that it’s probably about 40 – 50% pregnant).

So? You’re in a boat where probably about half of all women are pregnant by this point – and you happen to be in the other half.

Get OPKs, try a few more months, then think about maybe seeing somebody.


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