Post # 1
This might sound silly but my whole life I have wanted kids. Problem being, I have always felt that I will have problems getting pregnant. I don’t really have a reason to think this way. I have always been pretty regular and with being on birth control since I was 19, I never had any “oops” things because I have been on the pill. But now my husband and I are getting ready to start really trying this month and I have this sinking feeling that it will never happen for me. Has anyone else ever felt this way and then ended up pregnant? I guess I am just hoping it is my nerves making me feel this way more than some kind of weird intuition.
Post # 3
You may just be anxious because this is something you have so little control over. I naively thought I would get pregnant on the first try (after all, that is what the nun’s told me would happen if I had unprotected sex!), when it didn’t happen, I was devastated and thought it would never happen (it still hasn’t, but it has only been 3 cycles). My DH has to remind me (regularly) that during any given month, we have 20% chance of conceiving, but a 90% chance of conceiving over the year.
Just start being proactive now, take your prenatals, lead a healthy lifestyle, and maybe even read Taking Control of Your Fertility and chart. I really hope you enjoy the process!
Post # 4
I was sure I was going to have trouble getting pregnant. I had been on the pill for 12 years, it took my mom awhile to get pregnant with me and then again with my sister, and I had been told I had a tipped uterus that would make conceiving more difficult. I got pregnant on our 3rd cycle trying! It’s definitely not that easy for everyone, but don’t stress yourself out before you have a reason to stress!
Post # 5
I feel the same way. I just had my IUD removed yesterday so I can start getting my cycle on track and plan on getting healthier in the next few months as I prepare. I have a nagging feeling that something is wrong, but I’m also a huge worrier in general. I think my biggest worry is the fact that I am overweight. However, my mom and sister, who share my body type, both got pregnant with no complications, so I’m hoping for the same!
Post # 6
@courtknee379: I was positive I would have trouble getting pregnant! I started taking the pill at 15 and didn’t stop until age 27, right after my honeymoon. We got pregnant our first cycle and our baby will be here in 6 or 7 weeks!
Post # 7
I had been on the pill for 7 years and the last 3 years I was on Seasonique so I would only have a period once every 3 months. There were times that I was late and thought, maybe? But no, I was just getting excited. Here I go sounding ridiculous but I am surprised that in all of those years I never even had a pregnancy scare. Haha. My mom got pregnant with me on b.c. and always told me to use a backup method, “because it was so easy for her.” I guess the pill really did work how it should have and yet I question that? Lol
Thank you both for your responses. It really does make me feel better to know that I am not losing my mind. 🙂
Post # 8
@courtknee379: I felt the same way. It took my mom over 4 years to finally get pregnant with my older brother, and that was after visiting fertility specialists so I just assumed I’d have the same fate. I also was on the pill for over 10 years due to horrible period issues, that I figured would have an affect on things when TTC. Ideally, we wanted to get pregnant this summer coming up, but since I was so convinced it would take me a long time, we decided to start NTNP this past December. Well, now I’m due in September lol. I know my experience isn’t always typical but my only advice is to try not to worry about it
Post # 9
Hey, I’m there with you! I started taking BC at 18, and just got off of it 6 months ago (I’m nearly 31) Ive never had a pregnancy scare, I got off of BC once before back when I was about 20, only for a year when my husband and I broke up (we were dating and separated for a year), and I remember having terrible cramps and the bleeding being so heavy, but that I did go back to a regular cycle and then got back on it when we resumed our relationship and well, you could say I’ve never, ever taken a chance, so I had never thought there was something wrong or anythign but now that i”m off the pill, and things have been pretty weird with my cycle..basically I get bleeding every 22-26 days and it only lasts for 2 days exactly, with medium flow….and I recently had a 40 day cycle that had me pretty stressed out.
However, I think if we don’t fall pregnant in 6 months, I will start charting in more detail. Currently I’m only keeping track of very obvious things like cycle length, any very obvious CM symtoms, If I don’t see much CM at all I don’t chart it, I don’t temp, I don’t use OPK’s…but that could all change if nothing happens in 6 months.
My doc says there isn nothing to worry about, that after years of being on BC, it could taken several months but statistically I will start ovulating on my own without any help..and I will be fertile. She said not to worry about it, so I won’t. I sitll do have this nagging fear that I won’t be pregnant in 6 months or 12 months…but I talked to my husband nad we agreed not to pressure ourselves, that it’s a 20% chance per month so we shouldn’t be upset ifi it doens’t happen this month, or next month or even in 6 months.
Post # 10
@courtknee379: I had that fear too. I dont think you are alone. I think you hear some much out of infertility issues that it can make you doubt or think of the what if’s. I am on my 8th cycle trying and so far my MD has found nothing wrong with me. I underwent a lot of infertility tests and they all came back clear. My DH is about to have his SA done, so we shall see what happens with that.
It is normal to feel nervous like that and even think that there is something wrong with you. Try to stay positive (although i know its hard to do that)….FX that nothing is wrong with you or your DH and you will conceive right away :)))))))))))))))))
Post # 11
I didn’t think I would have any problem’s getting pregnant, all of my family got pregnant right away or by mistake. We have been trying for 10 cycles with no BFP.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your stories. It is probably nerves more than anything else. Good luck to you all in your pregnancies, as well as those waiting for their BFP. Hopefully I will have good news to share soon as well. 🙂