Post # 1
this is a major annoyance for me. We are TTC (or NTNT), and it has a major impact on me planning things.
I completed my first 10k run last year, and really wanted to run a half marathon this year. Problem is, even though I plan to continue working out throughout my pregnancy, I highly doubt that running my first half marathon pregnant is a good idea. So we entered the 10k instead.
I’m just annoyed because, maybe the day of the run, I won’t even be pregnant yet and will have missed the chance to accomplish this goal. I don’t like planning things around something that may or may not happen in the next few months!
Post # 3
I hear you!
We have a couple family vacations coming up. One is doable regardless of if I get pregnant between now and then. I’ll still be well within the safe flying timeframe.
However the other is a overseas trip which even within the safe flying timeframe I would be uncomfortable doing if I was pregnant.
And just trying to juggle time off with that as well. I have so little time off after our wedding and Honeymoon that I want to save as much as possible for maternity leave.
Post # 4
Haha, I’ve been doing this for a year now! Such a pain!
I run too, up to 13.1 races, and haven’t stopped signing up, but generally wait until the last minute to sign up (when I know if I’m pg or not), or like you, choose lower distances of 5-12k. The other idea is to sign up for whatever distance you want, but with the condition of dropping to a lower category (or skipping) if you find out you are pregnant.
Basically we’ve just stopped making too many plans (other than driving distance travel) more than 3-4 months out. Hasn’t been a big game changer, but it always makes me wonder “will I be pregnant when this happens, or when we go here?”
Post # 5
We haven’t been TTC very long, but I’m trying to plan and do things as I normally would. I just have no idea how long this may take and I don’t want to deprive myself of any of life in the meantime! Don’t get me wrong, I think about it all the time though – particularly when scheduling things at work many months out.
Post # 6
I was like this at the start, but many of us soon realize that you can’t put your life on hold because you can’t plan when you’ll be pregnant. I’d rather lose money on a trip, etc. than not plan anything. We’ve been trying since August with no luck yet. I’d be extra bitter about the time it’s taking (and could still take) if I spent all of it with no plans.
Post # 7
I just kept planning things as normal. I think it would be easier for me to be disapointed that I have to miss something b/c I got pregnant (which I just did, a family vacation to Jamaica), then to miss out and be reminded that I don’t have a baby and I can’t do those things.
Post # 8
I struggled with this for 8 months of TTC before getting pregnant and constantly felt like I was putting my life on hold for something that may or may not happen. It’s SOOOO frustrating! So my two cents: Don’t do it. Plan your races and train for them and deal with it when/if you get pregnant instead of the other way around. It will keep you in great shape and running helps with the stress that can come with TTC. I know race fees can be expensive, but I would think it you got a note from a doctor that there is a chance of a refund, or else you just eat the cost (which sucks, but you know you get a baby so it’s a tradeoff). As for travel, we just spend the extra money on travel insurance. I fully intend to travel to a cousins wedding this summer, but if something happens and my doctor won’t allow it, the insurance kicks in and we get our money back.
Make plans and then make back up plans but Live Your Life, don’t stop doing things you love – it will just drive you crazy!
Post # 9
@ladyox: Thanks for the advice! We already registered for a 10k in May, and I don’t think I would be ready for a half marathon by then because it’s still too cold to run (I can’t workout outside in the winter because of asthma..); but I might just register for one in September and see where it takes us… It gives me all summer to train for it and if I lose the money, the tradeoff is great! (and I might even be able to sell my spot to someone else..)
Post # 10
@egb: I think that’s a pretty good plan of action. Best of luck to you and your husband!