(Closed) TTC near your 30s, how was/is it?

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m 28 and 38 weeks pregnant. I’ll be 29 next month. We were married for 2 years before TTC, own our house and have no CC or car debt, both employed, with health insurance, and a budget that has us saving money every month. I felt like those were the minimum financial requirements for having a kid. Age was a factor because I wanted to have a baby before I was 30 and I wanted to time it well with the school year because I’m a teacher, so I felt if I didn’t get pregnant when I did I would have to wait almost a whole other year. Another reason we decided to try at that time was because we want 3 or 4 kids and I want to be done before I’m about 38 at the oldest, and they need to be somewhat spaced out, so counting backwards, it was about time to start.

I got pregnant after only one cycle trying, but that might have been because I never took the pill and there was no transition time to get me off the hormones. Also I had been charting for 3 years (NFP) and knew my cycle well, and it’s pretty regular and easy to follow.

Honestly, if I could have frozen my body at its current fertility levels then I might have waited another year or two though. I really like my child-free lifestyle and I’m more excited about having kids than about having babies, if that makes any sense. I just enjoy that stage of development more. But I know that the best odds for having healthy kids meant starting ASAP, so I did. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am 29, turning 30 in July. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant. I’m not sure how to say this delicately… The month I got pregnant was literally the first time I ever said to DH “oh, I shouldn’t be ovulating, you don’t have to be careful today.” Turns out I ovulated a week late, and here we are!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@candy11:  That’s great that you know you are goal-oriented. I knew HOW I was but I didn’t know there was an actual term. I will say to decide what goals are NEEDED and not just WANTED.

There were some goals that I decided to forgo b/c I desired a family and they didn’t fit into being a mother. In the beginning of the TTC struggle, I felt guilty for giving them up but now (maybe time has helped) I am confident that I made the right choice and haven’t dwelled on my life choices. 

I’ve also started making a list of goals to accomplish if we are NOT able to have kids. Not that we couldn’t do them w/kids, but it would be harder. DH is trying to convince me that in 5 years, we retire on a beach somewhere and open a smoothie bar…btw neither of us drinks smoothies….goal #1) Learn how to make smoothies. 🙂

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ll be 6 months shy of 30 when we start trying. I really want to try earlier (I’m currently 27) but when your DH isn’t on board there’s not much you can do – you can’t make yourself preggo! My Mum was 29 and 31 when she had me and my sister so I’m hoping I’ll be OK. 

 

FH and I both have stable, full time jobs, we have our own home etc but we don’t get married until end of September, then would like a bit of time to be ‘married’ without a baby and FH has never really travelled so we’ll have one last big trip before TTC.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not having kids for a few more years (at 30+), but I’m surprised by all the ladies freaked out about trying in their late 20s/early 30s. For some more ancedotes, my mom had me at 35-it did take them awhile to conceive but when they did, they did it without any interventions. I worked with a lady who conceived immediately after stopping BC in her early 30s. My nephew’s mom got pregnant with her second when she was in her mid-30s after maybe two months(?) of trying. My aunt and uncle were in their thirties when they unexpectaly got pregnant with my cousin.

I do have one friend who had trouble getting pregnant with her second, but she was in her mid-20s!

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@candy11:  I’m with you, hun.  I’m ideally thinking of about 2.5-3 years between each and having either 2-3 in the end. I love little kids, but I don’t want my entire life to be chasing 2-3 really young ones b/c we had them so close together and they’re all so dependent and need to constantly be watched w/ hawk eyes. I really want to enjoy having each one little on their own, and I know we will if we space it out a bit. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@candy11:  I have been charting for almost a year since I came off the pill, and my cycles came back normal right away! It has been frustrating to see that our timing is great every month for the past six months and everything looks solid on my charts but to not have any luck.

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