Post # 1
My husband and I have spoken about TTC later this year and I wish I could talk to someone about this. I have 1 friend that I’ve spoken to about this and feel comfortable talking to, but that’s it. I don’t want to mention it to my parents or my inlaws because they’ll just get too excited and want to be too involved. I also don’t want to get ahead of myself if TTC takes longer than I anticipate. Has anyone ever gone through this? I wish I had more friends that were TTC right now and I could talk to about this. I’m so excited about TTC and wish I had more people to talk to about it and ask questions. It would be my first and I just have so many questions. I’m also so worried about miscarriages and having fertility issues because I’ve never tried to get pregnant before so I really don’t know how my fertility is or my husband’s. It’s just such a crazy time and I’m so eager to talk through all my questions, concerns, excitement, etc. Anyone have any advice on how to handle this and all the thoughts running through my head? Thanks in advance!
Post # 2
When DH and I first started TTC I kept it super private and didn’t really tell anyone. We got pregnant right away and I was ecastic and shared with a couple very close friends and my immediate family. Then I had an early miscarriage at 8 weeks.
I actually ended up being really open about the miscarriage and found it helpful to talk about it (after a couple weeks when the shock wore off). When we re-started TTC a couple months later I was pretty open about it with friends and family as the lows of negative tests each month were LOW. It was nice having that support. Of course it meant that when I did get pregnant (6+ months later) everyone knew right away since the tears DIDN’T happen that month – but that didn’t bother me as it meant I could celebrate with them right away.
We plan to TTC for #2 this summer and I’ve already started being open about it. I realized that having support through MC and the long months of negative pregnancy tests (if they happen) was really important for me. I aso found this forum to be super helpful for practical tips, while the ‘in real life’ support from my friends and family was better for emotional venting / dealing with my crying episodes.
Post # 3
The POAS boards here are awesome for TTC support. I’m pretty private IRL about that stuff, but have made wonderful friends on WB from the TTC boards, have even met up with some IRL. It’s a great outlet if you’re busting at the seams to talk about TTC but don’t want to bore those in your real life about it, and/or want privacy.
Post # 4
I second this- def join us on the TTC boards!!!!!
Post # 5
Thirding POAS boards!
You’re not alone, OP, in that TTC has been incredibly lonely (we’re in the wait to see if cycle 8 worked). I’ve tried talking to a few friends about but, but their advice is worse than useless, so it ends up making me feel even more alone. My husband is amazing, but he’s so laid back youngest child that nothing really fusses him…in his mind, of course it’ll happen eventually, and whether it’s this month or next month or in 6 months, that’s all fine.
Post # 6
Yes please join us on the POAS boards! I don’t talk to anyone else other than my DH about TTC. I’m the last in my group who is married but not pregnant or haven’t had a baby yet – but I’m also pretty private and don’t want to talk about it as I don’t want to hear any “helpful” advice lol.
Post # 7
Thank you all so much <3 I really appreciate the support and knowing that I’m not the only one struggling with keeping this to myself. Ill definitely join the POAS boards! I’ve only recently discovered this site so I honestly don’t even know what POAS stands for haha.
Post # 8
I would advise trying not to stress about potential future miscarriages or infertility. The former you can’t control and the latter you won’t know until you start trying.
OP join the boards here and there’s a great TTC community. Also, POAS means peeing on a stick (haha basically taking a pregnancy test).
Post # 9
I definitely felt this way earlier in 2020 when we decided we would start TTC in the fall. I personally didn’t confide in any friends, or family because I’m pretty private, but found the boards here really helpful! I loved the POAS boards, as I felt crazy symptom spotting and needed an outlet where no one would judge me. I had all of the same fears about it taking a long time, and having miscarriages or fertility issues, but you just don’t know until you try. I hope that won’t be the case for you, bee. We got pregnant on cycle too, and baby girl is 22 weeks 🙂 It’s an exciting time!