Post # 1
Looking for a little advice from others. I am 35 and ready to TTC – transitioned off some medication and BC (had withdrawal and 1 period). We are planning a 2 week trip in late Aug-Sept as kind of our last major trip / baby moon / better honeymoon since we didn’t do anything major. The trip will be light activity/very light hiking but more packed in terms of driving and scheduling (two-state road trip). We’re purposely limiting and planning to see everything we want to see while not being too tired or stressed to enjoy it and very conscious of building in relaxation time.
Question is do we start trying pretty soon, given that we want more than one and my age and even if I got pregnant right away I would only be app. 4-5 months during the trip? Or is 5 months not a big enough impact to the timeline and wait until we’re there/are back? No activity will be too strenous but I obviously can’t predict my fatigue or nausea level. After a long mental decision process i feel like i’m finally ready and eager and thinking of waiting that long hurts me but i also can’t ignore the probability that i could get pregnant right away and i could be nauseous or fatigued on a road trip.
Thanks for any comments or advice!
Post # 2
ohbride14 : honestly the first trimester will probably/almost surely leave you more crampy and tired and nauseous than the second. Most women I know who are in their second trimester feel great.
It’s so hard to guess if you’ll get pregnant right away or if you’ll need a year of trying or what.. there isn’t a helluva lot of rhyme or reason to predict who will have an easy go at it and who wont. Sorry bee I wish I had a great solution for you.
Post # 3
I say start TTC now. You could be trying for a few months before it happens and your trip doesn’t sound too intense if you are already a few months pregnant by the time it happens!
Post # 4
I would start trying now. I kept putting off trying and it ended up taking me 8 cycles to get pregnant and we were both healthy with no fertility issues so now I’m paranoid about it.
Post # 5
ohbride14 : if you’re ready then start now! You will be really upset if you wait and then it takes awhile to get pregnant. My husband and I actually started trying a bit earlier than he would have liked (but he agreed to) and later he was so glad that we went with my timeline because we had fertility issues.
Post # 6
I would start now… If it gets closer to the trip and you haven’t gotten your BFP, you can always pump the breaks until after the trip. You never know how long TTC will take!
Post # 7
Try now. If you need help itd be better to be able to start that process 6 months from now vs, waiting till sept to try, then possibly seeing an RE a year from now.
If you were 25 Id say just wait and enjoy summer, but 35 its best to get the ball rolling asap IMO. You could still go on your trip if pregnant.
Post # 8
Depends on how well your pregnancy goes –
I was nausous to the point of not being able to walk my first trimester.
Second trimester I had RLP and Sciatica that was incredibly painful. Every step I took was painful and I had to sit most of the time – I could hardly work.
Post # 9
I would start trying now. I am 33, started TTC at 32. Now we are on our 11th cycle, and with taking breaks here and there for various reasons, it’s actually been about 15 months since we started trying. If I could go back and TTC during those breaks, I totally would. Hopefully you will be one of the lucky ones and TTC will be a breeze, but from where I’m sitting, I wish we would have started sooner.
Post # 10
ohbride14 : I’d try now — most people feel pretty good in their second trimester, so if you did get pregnant right away, you’d be at a great spot.
We’re in a similar spot (taking a big trip in August) and we’ve been TTC for 8 months now. I’m on the fence to whether we TTA close to that date as I’d rather not be in my first trimester, but given our fertility issues, I’m not sure we’ll take a break at all.
Post # 11
I agree with others. I would definitely start now. You could get pregnant right away, or it could take some time. You could be sick or be like some women and never feel nauseous or fatigue during your pregnancy. You don’t know until you’re trying and get pregnant.
I took two airplane trips and a road trip around 16-22 pregnant and was fine. I just made sure to drink a whole lot and keep snacks with me.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! I really appreciate the advice.
Post # 13
I agree with the others, I would start now. I was 35 and a half when we started trying, and we want two kids too. The time it takes to get pregnant gets longer on average by your mid- to late-30s, the rates of miscarriage go up pretty substantially around age 37-38, and the rates of chromosomal anomalies like Down’s syndrome and other much more serious ones go up starting around 35. Logistically, thinking ahead to not just this kid but also the next one…. if you’re financially prepared and your relationship is in a good place, personally I don’t see the point of waiting.
But be prepared that it might happen quickly! I got pregnant our first month trying – wasn’t expecting that. We already had an international trip (Portugal and Azores Islands) planned and so we went ahead and went on it anyway… just got back yesterday in fact. I was 9-10 weeks pregnant on the trip and luckly I’ve been feeling pretty good (no morning sickness). Still, even in the nicest pregnancy, you are TIRED during the first trimester!! We are big hiking people usually, but we definitely had to cut down on that. Still, I was able to do some light hikes and walk all over Lisbon for miles and miles. You do need to plan for tiredness… I had to take a few mid-afternoon naps, and I was usually beat by 9 pm. But in general, it was fine. However, some people are nauseous and throwing up every day, and that would be miserable. But ultimately for me, I’d rather take a half-miserable trip or cancel the trip, then wait to TTC for 6 months at age 35.
Just my two cents 🙂 Good luck!
PS – have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility? The very best thing you can do to try to get pregnant quickly is to identify and have sex during your fertile window, which is only like 3-4 days of the month. That book will help you figure that out. Unless you have sex every other day or so all month, in which case you should be covered just fine, I would definitely recommend reading it!