Post # 16
I would wait until the honeymoon. South Africa will be fantastic and a great ‘last trip before kids’. Its only a couple months and if you wanted you could always start trying on the honeymoon. Use those couple months between the wedding and honeymoon to pamper yourselves and enjoy time before kids. I have a 4 month old and i’m dreaming about things like meals out at posh restaurants, spa days, massages, just sleeping in general, sunday morning lie-ins with breakfast in bed, movie marathons on the weekend etc… all those things I can no longer do and took for granted before.
Post # 17
It’s excessive, I know, but what can I say, I love my holidays. They are what I spend my money on. 🤷🏻♀️
Post # 18
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
butternutter : Then I think you answered your own question, no? Do Ibiza, then go to SA, then TTC. It seems to be what you’re prioritizing.
Post # 19
butternutter : nothing wrong with that! I love holidays and traveling too! And once you have kids you have less money so we also squeezed in a few trips before our daughter was born (daycare costs are a b!tch). It just sounded like you were most excited about SA and TTC so it would have made sense to me to move it up and then start baby-making. I also struggled with infertility so I am always of the mindset that when you want to try for a baby get going on it. But I have friends that get knocked up super easily that think the opposite.
Post # 20
We are in the exact same boat, just on opposite sides! We are older, and we are doing a quick “mini-moon” to the beach to relax right the weekend after our wedding, then we are doing a big trip to Santorini (I’m in the US) in September. My fiance wants to start trying the day after our wedding. I want to wait until we get done with Greece before we try. I just know that if we do get pregnant, we’ll never go to Greece and it’s been on our bucket list forever. Plus I am older (36), and so any pregnancy will be considered “high risk” and I may not get cleared to travel. We are working on a compromise, moving the trip to May and then trying on the trip, but the better time to go is in September! And I just really want to go then! But I also know I need to get a move on having kiddos!! So we are keeping our eye out for an earlier trip, and if we can’t find anything soon, we’ll just go in the beginning of September and just have to hope a baby doesn’t come before then!
Post # 21
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
I am in the same boat! We’re doing 3 nights on the beach near where we are getting married, and then going to Kauai in October. My Fiance calls the Kauai trip our honeymoon, but I’m hoping it will be a babymoon! We don’t want to wait and will TTC right after the wedding in May. If we conceive quickly, I’ll be 5 months or less along which I think is manageable for a beach vacation. If we were doing something with a lot of hiking and sight seeing, I would probably put of TTC and enjoy the vacation.
Post # 22
butternutter : If anything, south Africa, which btw sounds amazing, can be your babymoon instead of honeymoon? Agree with the other PPs, make Ibiza your honeymoon.
Post # 23
breatheandrelax : if we’re going to SA I want to be able to run and hike and drink wine (and shark dive..?!)!
No harm in waiting an extra couple of months I guess..(even tho I am verging on being a “geriatric mother” which has got to be just the WORST term)
I also want to get a promotion in work next winter so I could focus on ticking off some boxes over the summer towards that..
Sunshine024 : we were looking at Santorini in May as well! But it’s really awkward to get to from Ireland for only a couple of days.. It would be lovely in May as well at September!
Post # 24
I just got back from our SA honeymoon Sunday, and I definitely echo PP’s about the wine and food. I’m not even really a drinker but I ended up having wine most nights (it’s sooo cheap compared to here in Canada), and we definitely enjoyed the cheeses, smoked fish etc (and my hubby loved all the game meat). It’s also a beautiful place to go surfing, on long drives (ie if you’re doing the Garden Route) and different hikes…which may be tougher if you’re feeling sick or sore.
We didn’t do any additional vaccines (ie beyond being up to date on the usual ones, and having Hep A). You don’t need anti-malarials unless you’re going to the area around Kruger park, but be warned that you’re discouraged from TTC for ~3 months after taking those (which is why we did a safari on the Eastern Cape).
Post # 25
campingbee : ahh sounds amazing Bee! Great tips too!
I guess I may just try and pull SA as forward as much as possible, even though annoyingly the later in the year the better weather
Post # 26
butternutter : You have no idea how long it will take to conceive. I would start trying in Ibiza…you may or may not be pregnant by the time you go to South Africa. Have fun, both trips sound amazing!