TTC, sex everyday, every other day or something else?

posted 7 years ago in TTC
  • poll: When TTC do you have sex...
    Every day I know I am fertile : (38 votes)
    41 %
    Every other day when I know I am fertile : (28 votes)
    30 %
    Whenever the mood hits! : (13 votes)
    14 %
    No set pattern : (7 votes)
    8 %
    Other (please explain) : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m not pregnant at the moment but we BD every day that I know I’m fertile. We usually take a couple days off right before what we know will be my peak time but I can’t make myself do every other day because I’m always paranoid that I’ll miss something!

     

    Post # 5
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    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @MapleBecky:The month that I did get pregnant we BD every day but I’ve definitely heard it’s better to take a day off to “build up” lol. It’s worth a try!

    Post # 7
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    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    The last time I got pg we BD only on the day I got a smiley on my OPK….this cycle we BD 2 days before I got a smiley (just had a feeling something was coming due to EWCM) and then again the day of the smiley (which was two days later) we did not BD after that ๐Ÿ™ so we BD every other day and I have a good feeling….good luck!!

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    When we got pregnant we were going at it like rabbits…like MULTIPLE times a day every day. But I just think the wedding was Mali.g me extra horny, lol, I don’t know what we would have do.e otherwise

    Post # 9
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We actually followed the “sperm meets the egg” plan or SMEP for short.  Here’s a link that explains the plan:  http://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

    Her explanation assumes a 28 day cycle – but it could be altered to work with any length of cycle really.

    The gist – (if you have a 28 day cycle) – start having sex every other day beginning around CD8.  Start using OPKs around CD10 and once you get a positive OPK – have sex that day and for the two days following (most woman ovulate approx 12 – 48 hours AFTER a positive OPK).  Take a day off, then have sex the day after that just to be sure. 

    The idea being that you want those sperm in there and waiting for the egg to be released! We weren’t always great about getting that last “just in case” day in (usually exhausted by that point – hah) but it seemed to work for us as I’m now 18 weeks pregnant ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We haven’t quite worked it out to that level of precision yet as we’re still a couple of months away from TTC but we have talked about this and because we don’t want to make it feel like ‘work’, we’re not going to set a pattern so to speak.   Going by how we typically do things, we will probably BD every other day and just see what happens.   Darling Husband and I are very committed to just being relaxed about this whole process as we don’t want this to become a stressful issue for us….  it’s easy to say now but we’ll see how that works out when the time comes!  

    Post # 11
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    @Ree723: I think that’s a great idea – because honestly, having a “plan” does take some fun away from it all.  We took it easy and had fun for the first 4 months or so, but after that didn’t result in anything, I admit, I started getting antsy (I like to blame it on my age – I’m 36 – but part of it was just impatience too – haha).

    But if you have time on your hands, and you aren’t impatient like me – then I would wholeheartedly recommend just taking it easy and having fun!!

     

    Post # 12
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    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @echo: true.

    Although I totally respect the other ladies’ decision to plan, I am going to play it by ear to some extent.

    Basically…we will BD every other night on that fertile week if not more…so basically if the mood strikes us at breakfast we’ll get busy….and so on. I’m not going to do like a “everynight at 7pm!” thing…

    a little planning is good though:)

     

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We do two on and one off!  I don’t exactly have a raging libido but having a break every couple of days helps keep things fresh and interesting.

    Post # 14
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    1228 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We were really more what happens, happens (I mean, don’t get me wrong, I desperately wanted to get pregnant but I wasn’t really charting or temping and with such an irregular cycle I had no idea when my peak time was), but I would say we probably hit it every day for close to 8 weeks (to be fair, we had been married less than a month when we stopped BC) and by the time that tapered off, I was already pregnant. I have heard both sides of the argument- some say you need a day off to build up (think those I-phone apps that tell you what days to do it are one of them) and some say it really doesn’t matter. For me personally, if I knew when my fertile time was, I’d probably do it every day.

    Post # 15
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    1053 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    i second @echo:  we are starting to try this month and it’s what we’re going to use.  i feel like with that i’ll know we’re covering our bases! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    When TTC, they taught us every 72hours in nursing school. That is how long it takes for sperm to be produced and mature. I think the theory behind that is, is that if you are having sex everyday the sperm don’t have time to mature making it more difficult and in return causing more stress


    > harder to get prego. ๐Ÿ˜€

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