(Closed) TTC tell Mom?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Did you tell your Mom that you are/were TTC?

    Yes, I told her before we even started!

    Yes, I told her after a while because....

    No

  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We haven’t started but I fully plan on telling her when we do.  My sister as well.  My sister just told us a month ago she is pregnant but she hadn’t told us they were trying.  We are so excited for them but selfishly I was sad I didn’t know.  I feel like I wouldn’t have been in quite as big of shock when she told us.  But my sister and I are really close as well as with my mom.  We talk and text daily.

    Also, I don’t think I could keep it a secret. 🙂 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    There’s no way in hades I’ll tell my mom when we’re TTC.  I can just hear it now, “Are you pregnant yet?  What about now?  Are you today?  Maybe tomorrow?  What about now?”  You get the point.  lol

    Post # 5
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    1937 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Nope!  We will wait until the 2nd trimester (around 13-14 weeks) to tell our families.  I’m not interested in everyone commenting on our sex life, why we are choosing to have kids now, or why it’s taking so long.  (We’re not actually TTC yet, but the comments have already started).

    Post # 6
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    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    heck no! i would never tell my mom that. for me it would almost feel like “hey mom guess what? i’m about to start having LOTS of sex EVERY DAY! whatya think of that?” lol but that’s just not something we would discuss, even though she was ecstatic when i told her i was pregnant.

    Post # 7
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    2231 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @JsDragonfly: Same. My mom was asking us when she could have grandchildren before we even got engaged. I don’t need her to be on my case when we eventually TTC. 

    Post # 8
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    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    DH and I are going to start TTC this fall. We told my mom…. are not telling DH mom.

    We knew that my mom would be excited and encouraging….along with my sis.

    DH’s mom would likely be really negative so we won’t be telling her till we get a positive test.

    Post # 9
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    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We told our families wihen I got pregnant…unfortunately I miscarried.  My sister knew we were TTC and my mom suspected we were. 

    Post # 10
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    2870 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    my sister knows, so by default now everyone knows on my side of the family.

    We are about to tell DH family because the questions are never ending about when we are going to start a family. 

    Every single time they ask it’s a painful reminder that it hasn’t happened yet.  DH and I are going to tell them “yes we are trying, NO it hasn’t happened yet. When it does we will tell you, until then no more questions please.”

     

    Post # 11
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    The first two times i was pregnant i had a miscarriage. The first time my mom found out because i was still living at home and she was snooping in my room and found my prenatal vitamins. After that it was allot harder having a miscarriage because she told everyone so they all knew about it. The second time just me and my hubby knew and i am glad because that is no one else’s business. And i was able to grieve on my own without the whole family knowing and asking how i feel. So all in all i would keep it a secret until at least the second trimester because you never know what will happen.

    Post # 12
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    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Mom knows we want to get started soon, but I am not going to give her any more info than that.   If it takes awhile, I don’t want her asking us about it and making us feel worse.

    Post # 13
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    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    NO way in hell! There’s just some things that need to be kept private from parents and this is one of them. I couldn’t imagine spending a weekend with them and them knowing that we were trying right then and there. May as well have them watch. EWWW!

    Post # 14
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    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn

    I told my mother we would be TTC at some point in the future. But I prefaced it by telling her that I was going to tell her something, I was only going to say it once, and I didn’t want to be asked about it again. After she acknowledged all of that, I told her we would be trying eventually and I’d tell her more when there was something to tell. The end.

    Sounds harsh, I know. But seriously, you’ve never met my mother. It was required.

    Post # 15
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    2560 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Our parents know we are TTC, and that we have been for almost a year.

    I am glad we told them because they are really keeping people off of our case.

    My mom actually told my extended family that they were not to discuss/hint/question about if I am pregnant, and when we are having kids, and that if she got wind that they were bothering me about it there would be hell to pay (LOL).  It is also nice to be able to vent that things are taking a while, etc etc. The support is helpful to me, it would be hard to go through this long of trying without someone other than DH to talk to.

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I would never tell anyone. My mom is the type to talk about everything.Mainly how hard it was for her to get pregnant with me.She is very open with “well keep this in mind when you do have kids 10 years from now do this….”or “it helps when you…. wtf mom? so I plan to keep everything on the down low.

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