(Closed) TTC timelines, relationship length and living together

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What's your stats
    Together for a long time, lived together before marriage, TTC immediately : (42 votes)
    23 %
    Together for a short time, lived together before marriage, TTC immediately : (15 votes)
    8 %
    Together for a long time, didn't live together before marriage, TTC immediately : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Together for a short time, didn't live together before marriage, TTC immediately : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Together for a long time, lived together before marriage, waited to TTC : (75 votes)
    41 %
    Together for a short time, lived together before marriage, waited to TTC : (19 votes)
    10 %
    Together for a long time, didn't live together before marriage, waited to TTC : (12 votes)
    6 %
    Together for a short time, didn't live together before marriage, waited to TTC : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Planned to wait to TTC but had a "surprise" : (6 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    1031 posts
    Bumble bee

    Together for five, living for two, married for one, ttc-ed six months after being married.

    Post # 18
    Member
    1915 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

    I think time together and time living together factors in, but also age. We began ttc on our wedding night, after being together just under 6 years and living together about 4. However, I’m 31 and Darling Husband is 38, and I have been diagnosed with endometriosis which I know can cause fertility issues (but hopefully it won’t!). The age and the endo were the main reasons to begin so soon, but I think the time together also influenced it. I don’t know if I’d have been as comfortable with it had we not known each other so well and had our time alone together.

    Post # 19
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    9811 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Well I moved in 3.5 months after we met and we got married on our 2 year anniversary.  I got pregnant immediately after going off BCP 3 months before our wedding.  We were going to wait until the new year so technically it was a surprise though we would have started anyway at less than 1 year of being married.

    We’re both 29 though so that is the main reason it was so easy for us to jump into things.  If we were younger we’d be waiting years because I didn’t want kids before 30.

    Post # 20
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    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Lived together for a 1.5 years before marriage, TTC on the wedding night!

    Post # 22
    Member
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We’ve been together almost 3 years, living together for just over a year, ring has been purchased and a proposal is imminent..aaaaaaaand I just found out I’m pregnant. We want to be married before the baby is born, so it’ll be a small, intimate ceremony.

     

     

     

    We were going to wait until about 6 months after the wedding to TTC but we are overjoyed with our little surprise. I had no idea it would be that easy for me to concieve!!

     

     

     

    Post # 23
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    9172 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    not sure of your definition of “together a long time” but here is our timeline

    started dating jan 2011

    he moved in september 2012

    engaged feb 2013

    married october 2013

    ttc october 2013

    i’m 32, he’s 35.  if we were younger, we would wait to TTC.

    Post # 24
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    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Met and Started dating in August 2008

    Moved in together in May 2010

    Engaged and bought a house in February 2012

    Married June 2013

    TTC in January 2014

    I’m 25 and he’s 28….

    We already have lived together and bought a house and all that so other then “enjoying married life” which I dont even know what that means since theres nothing new, then theres no reason for us to “need” to wait.

     

    Post # 25
    Member
    975 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Got married after 4 years together. Lived together before getting married. Waited 2 years after the wedding to TTC and am currently 39 weeks pregnant.

    Post # 26
    Member
    253 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Together ~ 2.5 years before getting married. 

    Did not live together before we were married. 

    ~ 3.5 years of marriage before starting to TTC (now!) 🙂 

     

    Post # 27
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    398 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Met Jan. 2011, started dating September 2011, moved in November 2011, engaged July 2012 (my birthday!), married Feb. 2013 and TTC October 2013. So all in we’ve been together +2 years and married 7 months before TTC. I’m 30 and Darling Husband is 32. I didn’t want to wait much longer to try and we’ve had basically 2 years of ‘us’ time already. I do think if we had met when we were younger it would be a much slower timeline, but when we did meet, we had both been through some crap and had sorted ourselves out and knew what we wanted. Perfect timing, in my opinion. 

    Post # 28
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    1647 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

    We met in August of 2004, officially started dating in April of 2005.    We got married last month, and are TTC now.    We already had an oops baby, our son is 3 years old.

     

    I’m 31, he’s 29, if it makes any difference, and we’ve been together for almost 9 years.   I had my own apartment when we started dating but we have always spent the night together since then (although he technically didn’t live with me until 2008).   He lived with his parents before that.

     

     

    Post # 29
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    4675 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We dated about 10 months before moving in together, were engaged around our first dating aniversary, and were married about a year later.  We have been married a little over a year, and plan to wait until next summer before trying.  Yes, it is nice to have that alone time together, and I think it is important.  But for me, timing is coming into play more than our relationship length, or how long we have lived together.  As I am getting ‘older’ I would love to by trying right now, but I also decided to go back to school, and don’t want to be pushing babies out during my finals!  

    Post # 30
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    1582 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @worldtraveler:  Here is our timeline:

    Dated for 5 months, moved into together

    Engaged at 7 months

    Married at 21 months

    Started TTC 1 year after we got married

    Post # 31
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    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    We were together about 5 years, living together for just over 2, married for about 3 months, before we started TTC. It’s now about 6 months later.

    I absolutely would have waited had we not had our ‘alone’ time prior to marriage. We needed that time alone together to adjust to our circumstances.

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