Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
I have seen several bees say they are NTNP and others say they are TTC. The way I understand NTNP is that they are either not trying or not preventing enough. I get that! In both cases you are able to get pregnant say by accident in the case of NTNP and by really trying when you are TTC. At the end, both can lead you to become pregnant. If a given month the person TTC does not get pregnant it can be devastating and frustrating, but how do those people in the NTNP catergory feel about it especially if you knew you had a pretty good chance of becoming pregnant that month and you didn’t? How do you interpret this? I may be just over thinking this, but I so want to know this. Thank you bees!
Post # 3
It’s a good question. I’m partly commenting to follow, as I can’t comment from experience (not TTC yet, definitely actively preventing right now), but I know myself and I’d never be able to NTNP. For one thing, I really, really want to get pregnant (it’s just not the right time quite yet) – if I were OK with getting pregnant, I wouldn’t be able to resist doing everything in my power to improve my chances.
Post # 4
@candy11: I still felt disappointment but when we were ntnp, we didn’t do the deed as often as we should have, I forgot to temp several days so i relied on o pains. It was just more laid back and we had the mindset that if it happens, great, if not, that’s ok. But getting AF was a bummer for a second.
Post # 5
DH and I were NTNP for a while and have only just recently switched to TTC. When we were NTNP I did not chart, I did not temp and I wasn’t too bummed that it didn’t result in an actual pregnacy. It was more or less “if it happens, it happens.” I guess we had that mindset, because we did not feel that we were “ready” financially for children yet. Now, we’re still not 100% ready, but we’ve learned there really is no such thing as being ready. We’ve been together for 5 years and married for a few months now, so now we are just letting go and letting God handle it.
Post # 6
We are sort of NTNP right now. While I know when I ovulate, I’ve decided not to go crazy with the BD and just do it when we want to. If it’s in the window, awesome. If not, no biggie. Honestly, I won’t be at all disappointed if it doesn’t happen this month or even if it doesn’t happen the next.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
I guess the not trying hard enough makes it more obvious that there might not be a pregnancy. I think I get it. Thank you ladies.
Post # 8
I consider us NTNP/NTNT (seen both) because I chart and know my FW generally. We are pretty lax about prevention during those days though. If I had a positive OPK we *might* use a condom. Otherwise it’s mostly withdrawal. Withdrawal is more effective than people give it credit for, but I’m the girl who literally never ever had unprotected sex in the 10 years before this one. So to me, this is NTNT because we’re really [email protected]$$ing FAM.
We would be thrilled to be pregnant, but we’re not quite perfectly “ready.” Hopefully in a few months though!!!
Post # 9
@SadieBee: “but I know myself and I’d never be able to NTNP. For one thing, I really, really want to get pregnant (it’s just not the right time quite yet)”
This is totally me. I really want to be pregnant, and DH knows this so sometimes I count on him to be the rational one because of it. AND the fact that my libido SKYROCKETS during the FW. Really, it’s insane, lol. Biology. But I’m really open with him about where we are inthe month, and when he asks I always tell the truth with regard to the rough forecast. He knows the risks and read the important parts of TCOYF too. We’ve also had the “ok. You know the way we’re doing this has x,y,z, risks right?” during a non-sexy time. In fact, I think he was the one who decided he wanted to use withdrawal because that would have never occured to me. lol.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
When we were NTNP we just had sex and didn’t pay any sort of attention what time of the month it took place or anything. I only tested if I reached 48 days without AF (irregular cycles). If I got close to 48 days then got hit by AF I was disappointed but I really had no idea if we had hit anywhere near my FW. We were hoping that things would just happen for us like it did with our parents. After awhile I got sick of not knowing when to expect AF so I started charting and the first month we meant to stay NTNP but knowing that we got in my FW made me wonder so much about if I was KU that we quickly became full-on TTC.
Post # 11
We were NTNP for 14 months (by NTNP, I mean we didn’t chart/temp, but we did BD almost every other day, sometimes more than once a day) and did not get pregnant. We did have one BFP but shortly ended in MC. We were hoping we would get a BFP without having to temp/chart, but it looks like that won’t happen. We were trying to conceive (meaning: we didn’t do anything to prevent, BD very often, didn’t use any BC method, etc.) but it didn’t happen for us. We have decided to stop completely, save up for a few years and enjoy married life, and will begin TTC in 4-5 years.
Post # 12
We’ve been NTNP for 5 cycles now. This means we don’t chart, temp, check CM, plan BD according to ovulation (I have no idea if or when I’m ovulating..). My cycles are generally 28 days, give or take a day or two. The first couple of months we were off BC I was obsessed with it and had crazy pregnancy symptoms which turned out to be just my body adjusting to being off BC. It was sad when I got AF. Now that I’m into cycle 5 I’m much more laid back about it. I don’t get upset about AF anymore. Well maybe a tiny bit disappointed.. but when it finally does happen I’ll be very happy. And if it doesn’t after a while, we might start actively TTC (temping/charting etc) to see if we can figure out why it’s not happening for us.