TTC – wait until after vacation with friends?

posted 6 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Honey bee

afenimore11 :  start trying when you’re ready and hope for the best. It’s impossible to plan your life around TTC! It took me two years and IVF while my best friend got pregnanther first month off the pill – you literally have know way of knowing until you try!

We told close friends and immediate family by week 6, but they knew we had been trying and were in fertility treatments. I told work and the rest of our friends and family at the start of the second trimester. We have frozen embryos for our next kids and since it won’t be such a stressful ordeal as it was to get pregnant the first time we’ll likely wait until the second trimester to tell everyone when that time comes. Our rule for the early folks was that if I wouldn’t tell them about a miscarriage then they had to wait until the big announcement. 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Its only a month more to wait.  I’d wait.  Ive been TTC for 4.5 years, and I’m still taking a 2 months break cause of a vacation in June.  A month is nothing.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

afenimore11 :  if you do have people you want to tell earlier than others make sure they can keep a secret! There aren’t any rules about who gets to find out your news first – you get to decide. If you want to tell your mom 5 minutes after you pee on the stick, but wait until 12 weeks to tell your MIL because she’s a blabbermouth then that’s 100% your prerogative. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would wait and enjoy a good booze up while you can 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This was literally our exact situation last year 🙂 We had a vacation planned with five other friends in September. I knew I wanted to drink and relax during that trip, so we waited to TTC until after the trip. More than a few times before we left, I asked my husband his thoughts on starting before the trip, and he just told me to be patient and relax.

It timed up that I went off my pills the second-last day of our trip, and we were pregnant two weeks later, though I didn’t realize it for a few more weeks of course! So it definitely can happen that you’ll get pregnant right away… or you may not. I really wanted to have that one last trip so waiting a bit longer made sense to us. And in the grand scheme of life, one month is nothing. Plus, given how I felt during that first trimester (and I had it easy compared to others), I wouldn’t have wanted to go on vacation at that time. I was having terrible headaches and ended most days feeling bloated beyond belief. It was not all that fun.

My due date is July 3 and I have to say, yes being warm isn’t that fun. But, now that I can wear more dresses and lighter clothing, I am much more comfortable than I was in January-March, and I’m definitely bigger! Plus we have air conditioning. I told my husband that, for baby #2, it would be ideal to be due in September because I could wear easy dresses and flip flops during most of my pregnancy. That’s just me though 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’d wait til after the vacation. We have a trip planned in September, and are planning to wait until we get home to start TTC. I know myself, and I would just obsess and worry if I was or wasn’t pregnant, not wanting to drink or potentially do any more “adventurous” activities depending on where you are in your cycle (TWW), or worry about being far from home in the event of (god forbid) an early miscarriage. Obviously, it can and does take a long time for some couples, so I don’t think you should put your entire life on hold but if this is your last planned vacation and right around when you wanted to start trying, I don’t think it’s a bad idea to hold off a few weeks. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

afenimore11 :  I would not stop TTC on a what if situation.  It took us 8 months to conceive our second baby, and then I miscarried.  I didn’t get pregnant until a couple of months later.  So what I’m saying is don’t stop your life for something that will be in the future because honestly you might not be pregnant.  I’m not saying that in a mean way, just the flip side of the coin.

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