Post # 1
Ladies, I have a question. Firstly, Fiance is a few years younger than me. At the time of our wedding, I will be 31 and Fiance will be a month shy of 28. We want to start TTC very shortly afterwards.
As of right now, Fiance is WAY underemployed. He’s also in school. He will still be in school for SEVERAL years to come. I have a good, stable job, which I don’t plan on leaving.
Anyway, the question is, how many of you ladies had kids while your spouse was still in school? Is it feasible at all, or is it just ridiculous? I’ll be around 34-35 by the time he finishes and just can NOT imagine waiting that long, not to mention that late in the game.
Post # 3
I’m not personally in this position, but I just wanted to chime in and say that it’s not rediculous. Do you have a plan for care of the child once you go back to work though? Will he/she be in day care? I think that so long as your income alone can cover your cost of living and the cost of daycare then go for it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
I think you could make it work, but you will obviously have to return to work to continue to earn money, no? Or do you have enough of a savings in the bank, that you can support the family while taking some maternity leave?
Is there any way that your husband could get a P/T job if you take maternity leave?
I would say it’ll all work out – once people have kids, they just make it work. And because you are over 30, it may take some time to actually get pregnant anyway. I would start right after the wedding! It would buy you time to save up more of a savings in the bank, and for your husband to finish school.
Post # 5
We do have a plan for daycare – my mother plans to retire (she is already eligible) to watch our future kiddies full time. She has no problem with this, and does not want anything in return. Also, FI’s mother doesn’t work, so she’s a backup. We all live within 5 minutes of one another, so that’s good too!
Fiance does work P/T as well (and will hopefully have some raises before then) and we also have a fairly substantial nest egg, though I’d PREFER to not touch it if I didn’t have to (obviously).
My job doesn’t have maternity leave (I work for the government). We only get to use saved up leave, which is 3 months at MOST. BUT, we do have a fairly liberal work-at-home, and I could also do part time, if I chose.
I think I might just be freaking out about everything. I am over 30, and it scares me that I’m way late to this game and won’t be able to conceive. It doesn’t help that I was adopted (my mom couldn’t have kids), so I’ve always had the fear that I won’t be able to either. I know it’s not reality based, but it’s still a fear of mine.
I just hope we can get our act together!