Post # 1
My Darling Husband and I just recently celebrated our oneyear wedding anniversary, and are ready to start a family.
Currently, I am working fulltime, and have just started my Master’s program. The program requires attending classes in all quarters (fall, winter, spring, summer). The Master’s program is part time, with classes only on Saturdays (9am-5pm) throughout the year, and then an intensive month of Friday (evenings), Sat(9-5), Sunday(9-5) classes in June.
We have discussed TTC, and I am just wondering what other bees experiences were? Have any of you been pregnant while working full time and schooling part time?
I worked full time (shift work) while completing my undergrad, and I was able to manage it well. Now, I’m working for the school district and my hours are 9-5, Mon-Fri. Additionally I have Christmas Break off, Easter Break off, as well as reduced workweeks in the summer, so I feel like I will have more time to balance everything out. When the baby is born, I will be on a one-year maternity leave. With classes only on Saturdays plus the intensive month in July, I think it will be very manageable.
Writing it all out, makes my plan SEEM doable, but I’m wondering how realistic it is. Would love some insight on bees who have been in this experience!
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
My husband and I just got married on August 3rd, and are now due the end of April 2014 with our first child. I am currently workng fulltime as a paraeducator at a local elementary school, and am attending college fulltime for Elementary Education. I am currently taking one Saturday class, but starting in October I will taking 2 classes on Mondays and Thursdays from 5:30pm-10:45pm, as well as another Saturday class. Yes, I know it is going to be difficult to be pregant and going to school, but I am almost done so I can’t stop now! I will actually also be taking my Saturday class, as well as another online class when the baby is born, so I will have to contend with homework and a new baby!
It can be done! My sister attended nursing school full time during the day, had two young children and worked fulltime overnights! During those 2 years, she also dealt with an abusive husband and a divorce! She recently graduated as an RN, and is also now working on her Master’s while working fulltime! Amazing!! I guess I figure if she can do it, with everythng that life threw at her, then I can do it with a very supportive husband!
If this is what you want, then you can do it! It may be difficult, but always ask for help and encouragment!
Post # 4
No way could I handle that but you know yourself better than I do. How would you handle maternity leave if you have to be in school year round? I don’t plan on trying until we are in our mid thirtys and both have our own business that are financially set so we both have lots of time and flexibility with scheduling to fit in doctors appointments, maternity leave, PTA meetings, school events etc… I would never want to take on too much then not have time to enjoy my baby and being involved their lives, also having a baby is going to be crazy enough without the added stress of school, homework and a “traditional” job.
Post # 5
I think a lot of it also depends on when the baby will be born and how that falls in relation to the intensive class in July. I thought I was finished with school for awhile, but accepted a new job that required me to get a new certification. Three days after I accepted the job, Darling Husband and I discovered we were expecting. I will be able to get in two classes before our child arrives and will do the third one possibly this summer. I could take the third class, but it starts the day after I’m scheduled to give birth…which is a no-go :-). I think it depends on your support network and your own personality.
Post # 6
@simplyMrsN: It sounds very reasonable to me. I started school with baby was 2 or 3 months old and I went at night, when she was sleeping anyway and it was very doable. Since you’re only on Saturdays I’m assuming your Darling Husband could watch the baby on Saturdays? I think that would workout nicely esp if you have a year off of work!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@simplyMrsN: How close are you to completing your Master’s and how old are you? I would wait until you are less than 9 months from completing your Master’s because trying to complete a graduate degree while working full time and raising an infant is extremely difficult. Small children do not understand having to study for an exam or writing a paper. Also, pregnancy brain is very real.
There are women that can do it with a small child but if you have the opportunity to do it without a child, do it! I took care of my stepdaughter every other day and every other weekend and I pretty much never got any studying or assignments done on the nights we had her because she did not understand why I needed the time alone and my ex was terrible with keeping her occupied and out of my office.
Post # 8
@MissPixie: We share the same wedding date! Congrats on your anniversary and your pregnancy! WOW your sister must be superwoman.. you’re right if she can do it, then so can we! Especially if we have a supportive husband and family
@ash064: I think I’d be able to handle one year of maternity leave because during the year that I will be off, I will only have classes on Saturdays, and Fri,Sat,Sun only in July. Good luck on your business plans, and future family plans!
@keepsmiling19: You’re right it defintly depends on personality, and timing. I actually just went back and did the timing, and it seems I was a little off. I thought that if we were successful in TTC on our first cycle (which i know the chances are slim) it would be after the intensive 3 weeks in July, but i was wrong. The due date would be right BEFORE the intensive week begins..so we may have to end up delaying ttc one more cycle. Thanks for your perspective! Congrats on your new job AND pregnancy. How exciting!
@Ninteenthchance: I agree! I feel that the scheduling of the school allows for a lot of free time during maternity leave to ensure I still have time for my family. Thanks for sharing your experience!
@beachbride1216: I am 25 years old. I just started the program, and it is 2 years classroom, plus 1 year practicum. Timeline wise: If the timing for TTC works out like we want it to, the baby will be born right after my first year is complete. The following year I will be on 12 month mat leave so I will be home with baby all week except my Saturday classes. The following summer when Baby will be close to one years old, I will have the 3 week “intensive” week, so classes Fri,Sat,Sun. Then mat leave will be over, and I start my practicum. I also have a very helpful and understanding husband, and extended family who I know will support me through this journey. Pregnancy brain is def something to consider though! Thanks for your insight!