Post # 1
I’ve been TTC (for a little over a year now) and just got a job offer. I’m excited about the job and the salary is considerably higher than I make now. The drawback is that it is contract-to-hire: I’ll be working through the agency that recruited me for 6 months, and then (hopefully) the company will hire me full time.
My concern is that, if I get pregnant soon, I could be up to 6 months pregnant and then the company may not hire me because of that. Or, I won’t be eligible for FMLA because I wouldn’t have worked there for 12 months. I don’t know if the company offers paid maternity leave, and I don’t know if it’s worth it to ask, especially since I’m not actually pregnant right now and I might not even become pregnant within the contract term. I just don’t want to be 6 months pregnant and looking for another job.
What do you think? Should I take the job and just hope for the best? Should I ask the recruiter what she thinks (even though that could put me in a tough spot by revealing that I’m TTC)? Or should I play it safe and not take the job at all?
Post # 2
Depending on your finances, I would take the job. Trust me, there will ALWAYS be a really good reason why you should postpone having a baby. If you’re ready to have a kid and financially in a decent place, go for it. Save your new coins since you’re getting a raise and start trying.
Post # 3
How much more? 10% 15% 30%? Personally if it’s a signficant increase I would take it. There is a chance you won’t be pregnant in 6 months (not to be negative) and I wouldnt pass up an opportunity like this to get a higher paying job and bank more money into savings.
Post # 4
take it and bank the raise in case you do get pregnant and don’t have paid maternity leave. I was 8 months ttc when I changed jobs – I would have been miserable staying at my old job one more day, I got a $12k annual pay increase, and I still didn’t even get pregnant for another year and change!
It’s illegal to take maternity status into consideration when hiring, but we all know that it happens. Prove yourself to be a kick-ass employee, request a formal review before the 6 months are up, and position yourself so that even if you are pregnant they’d be stupid not to hire you.
Post # 5
Can you just ask what their benefits package is?
Post # 6
They gave me an overview of their benefits, but it’s really just the health insurance. So maybe I should take that to mean that they only offer FMLA (which I wouldn’t be eligible for anyway).
It’s 30% more. Which is shocking to me.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
I just started a new job even though we’re currently pursuing fertility treatment. I left a toxic work environment, my new supervisor and team are amazing, and my new salary is 15% higher. The only tough thing about leaving was that I had proven myself to be a valuable asset over the past 2.5 years in my last job, and now I’m starting from scratch. Even though we’re on the path to IVF, everything is so drawn out and we’ve had a couple of delays when it comes to scheduling appointments and procedures. So if all goes well, I’ll have been working in my role long enough to be eligible for Paid Family Leave. And I could delay embryo transfer until I’d have an expected due date that would make me eligible for FMLA. And there’s no guarantee that the treatment would be successful in the first place… All that to say, TTC is very unpredictable. There’s no guarantee that you’ll get a baby in the time frame that you planned on, and if you’ve been trying for over a year with no success, you may want to get some testing done just to see if there’s something going on. Good luck!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I definitely feel better about taking the job now.
Also, after looking at the benefits info more closely, I see that they do offer short-term disability plans, so I could use that for maternity leave if I end up getting pregnant and they decide to hire me after the 6 months.
Good luck with IVF!