- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
This is part-rant, part-question.
We’re on cycle 10–but 11 months–of TTC. I’ve been contemplating an OB/GYN switch since around six months. I asked her about my LP being around 8-9 days (then maybe another two days of spotting) and she told me not to worry. She told me the same thing at 9 months. I basically had to force her hand to get her to do a full panel of blood work on me (FSH, estrogen, thyroids, etc.) At the same time she did this, she ordered DH’s SA.
She made me wait a month to get the results. Another reason to switch.
I finally get to go yesterday, and she tells us that DH’s SA is “abnormal.” She said that the amount and speed of the sperm is perfect, but the morpholoy comes in at 35% which they considered low on a scale of 40-100 being “normal.” She then said that his pH level is at 8.5 when it needs to be at 8. Okay, that’s all fine and dandy.
THEN she turns around with THIS, “I heard that you posted on Facebook that you are unsatifised with your care. I was incredibly hurt by this. I couldn’t believe you said that.”
If life had a soundtrack, it would have screeched to a halt at this point. Say WHAT?
A few weeks ago, I did post that I was looking for a new OB/GYN because I wasn’t all that impressed with the care that I was getting. Sure, I shouldn’t have mentioned her name, I guess, but….really? How unprofessional! She then went on and on andt tried to make me feel guilty! I was honest with her and told her that she didn’t know enough about fertility to really help me, and I felt like she wouldn’t listen to me when I brought something to her attention. PLUS I had a friend who went to her that had a terrible experience with her when it came to fertility–so I needed to find someone who could help.
She just sat there and stared at me and tried to treat me like a child. Uh. No. So from there, I told her I still wanted my progesterone checked (this is the third time I’ve told her this.) First, she tried to argue with me and tell me wouldn’t bother with that until I got pregnant. I THEN told her that I knew a girl who was getting pregnant but wasn’t even able to find out because she was losing it so quickly because of low progesterone. She finally said she would order a CD21 test. I told her that wouldn’t work for me because I normally don’t ovulate until CD20-23. She said, “That doesn’t matter. It’s the day in the cycle that matters. You will start producing progesterone by that day, no matter what. So we can check your levels from there.”
If I hadn’t already decided to change doctors, that would have sealed the deal. This woman is impossible. She refused to listen to me. I don’t want to pay for a service that is crappy at best, expensive at the worst. If I would do the CD21 test, my insurance likely wouldn’t pay for it–and if I did it on CD21 it would be useless and a waste of money!
UGH. Sorry for the novel. But my next point is, she told us to go to a urologist. I called the urologist and really, it seems like all they’re going to do is charge us a ton of money for something that will likely just get us referred to a fertility specialist. We have a fantastic fertility specalist that two of my friends go to around here, should I just make an appointment with him for Darling Husband and bypass the urologist? The RE here also specializes in male infertility. ALSO, our insurance pays for the first visit that diagnosis infertility, so it would pay for us to at least get to talk to the RE and discuss the findings of the SA. Our insurance will pay NOTHING if we go to a urologist.
Bees, what would you do?