(Closed) TTC…oh goodness

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What are you doing?
    TTC : (32 votes)
    33 %
    not TTC but not preventing pregnancy : (14 votes)
    14 %
    waiting for career/education reasons : (18 votes)
    18 %
    waiting for other reasons : (25 votes)
    26 %
    already pregnant : (9 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    You don’t have an option for us that are already pregnant. But I figured I went through the TTC process so I can still answer. We started TTC right after we got married. I think it was a combination of age and just both of us really wanting a baby. We felt like we lived together before we got marriage, so it’s not like we need to spend a lot of alone time just the two of us. Career wasn’t an issue for me b/c I quit my job 6 months before we got married due to health reasons, and we just decided to have me keep not working until later on in life b/c I didn’t want to work while pregnant, again health reasons.

    Post # 4
    Member
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’re definitely waiting for a few years. I have no desire to be a mother right now. We’re only 25 and we have a lot of things that we would like to do and see before we have kids and no longer have the opportunity. It seems like a lot of people start trying immediately after marriage and that’s fine if that’s what works for them but it’s definitely not on our agenda for atleast a few years. Could we afford a baby? Sure, but I’d rather spend our money on us, not diapers and formula.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1820 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We are still technically waiting – I am off the pill, but we won’t start “trying” until July (I am kind of obsessed with having a spring baby).  That means we will wait about 10 months after the wedding.  I think for us it’s an age and time issue – I am 30, so I am ready, and we have been together for 7+ years, so I am not worried about having time together (something that I think is important for every couple to do before having kids).  The wait after the wedding had everything to do with wanting to get some travel in, enjoying the first few months of marriage without the stress of TTC, and just taking one thing at a time.  That being said, we really aren’t waiting that long.  :o)

    Post # 6
    Member
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We’re waiting for another 3 or 4 years to start trying to concieve.  I voted that we’re waiting for “other reasons” because I see it as more “money/income reasons” but I guess you could also classify it under “career reasons” too.

    I have no desire to have any kind of a “career” beyond being a stay-at-home mom.  But in order for me to do that, Darling Husband has to make enough money and be far enough along in his career that I can afford to quit working and stay home.  We aniticpate that happening in about 3 or 4 years, at which point in time, we will begin TTC.  We could afford a baby now without any problems, but I would have to be a working mother instead of a Stay-At-Home Mom, which isn’t the path/plan that either of us want.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Would I love to have a bavy soon?  YES.  Is it going to happen?  NO

    I am just getting ready to start my last year in a doctorate program and will be doing a master’s program simultaneously.  After that, post-graduate training will likely be necessary.  I want to wait until my career really starts to actually have a child.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m 24, he’s 28.

    We’re waiting for a few reasons. One, I’m only temp at my job and trying to get permanent. Darling Husband is working out of town right now because he can’t get a decent job in his field close by. So he’s working 24 days on and 4 days off. Not ideal for having a baby. And we also want to buy a house first. So we’ll be waiting another couple of years.

    Post # 9
    Member
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We wanted to start ttc right after we were married but, i am having second thoughts. I don’t know when the right time will actually be or if it ever will be. I just feel there is a little more i want to accomplish in my life before brining in a baby that depends on me. Yes we are potentially set for a child, low amount of debt, vehicles, a house we own, good jobs blah blah blah. But, i always want more and want better before i bring a child into the world. I always wanted to be a mom by the time i was 20 not that goal has turned to 25. I will be 23 just 3 days after we get married so i really should get on with trying for a baby if i want to meet my goal. But, could waiting another year really be that bad. Not only could we buy a newer and larger house by than but, be just that much more financially set for the little rascal. It’s a huge and hard decision.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3575 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We’re not trying yet but just had a talk about this on Sunday.  Looks like January 2012!

    Post # 11
    Member
    1820 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @stephinPA: Funny – our big talk was Sunday, too.  I guess Mother’s Day brings it out.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1506 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We’re waiting for financial and logistical reasons. We want to move to my hometown, buy a house. and get settled for a few years as a couple before we start trying. It’s in the 5 year plan though.

    Post # 13
    Member
    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are hopefully going to be able to TTC soon after the wedding but we are firm on waiting until Fiance has a good and steady job. The sooner the better for us though, we have already lived together and have had a lot of us time.. I got pregnant completely unexpectedly a few years ago (we miscarried) but it totally got us ready and in the mind frame for having a baby. So here’s hoping he finds a good job soon!

    Post # 14
    Member
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We want a few years of marriage together before bringing a baby into the mix – just seems right for us! We are doing a 6 month trip backpacking through Asia this year, moving to the bay area, getting new jobs, getting re-established. We have too many things changing to throw a baby into the mix. Plus, I just really believe in having a firmly established marriage prior to conceiving. I’m 27 and he is 33 (almost 34), so it isn’t an age thing really – we’ll start around the time I turn 30, we think.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1493 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @fvsoccer: We’re going to be TTC after the summer. For us, it’ll be two years of marriage child free. I really wanted two years of just the two of us doing our own thing, being a couple. We’ve been together 5 years before marrying, but I think marriage is different and we need to enjoy our marriage before life becomes all about kids. Right now, the last few months of our two years have been hard because everyone is pregnant right now. I’m now definitely ready for kids. I honestly wasn’t when we got married. It seemed like too many changes all at once if we got pregnant right away with buying a condo, moving, and honeymoon. Having those two years has helped me enjoy life as well as be ready for pregnancy and kids in the future.

    Post # 16
    Member
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2000

    For us, getting married & starting a baby went hand in hand because we’ve been together 11 years (I’m a bee in hiding… for a little while) we decided that we wanted to do both after 9 years together. That’s when we got engaged, got married a year and half later and pregnant within a few months. I’m 31, he’s 47 and for us, it’s time. 

    I have lots of friends that had a bit of trouble getting pregnant and with our age difference, we were hoping it would happen sooner rather than later. Just ’cause you never know. 

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