Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
I’m 40 and the mother of 4 kids, 3 by c-section. I’ve never had a flat stomach even as a teen and I’ve always wanted it. I’m overweight but I was thinking if I could get a little closer to goal. I’d just do it and wear everything that doesn’t need to cover my “front butt”. Feels vain but it would make me so happy and I can afford it now…I think. I know the recovery won’t be pleasant but I have a desk job so I think it’ll be ok.
Has anyone had one or know someone who did? I’m looking for advice on experience, recovery, cost etc. I live in the Midwest US. Regrets?
Post # 2
My mom did. She had two kids and then lost about 80 lbs. I think she did it about a year or so after reaching her goal weight. She doesn’t even wear clothes or even swimsuits that show her stomach but it makes her feel more happier and more confident in her body. It’s been probably 10 years and she’s still happy she did it.
I was in college when she had the surgery so I don’t really know what her recovery was like and I have no idea what it cost.
Post # 3
One of my best friends had a “mommy makeover” which included a breast lift/reduction and a tummy tuck after three kids (one single and twins). She loves hers. Not sure the PC way to phrase this, but she was always a healthy weight but the twins, understandably, stretched things out a bit.
Her stomach is now fairly flat, but not like washboard/bikini model flat. She said recovery wasn’t too terrible and she doesn’t regret it. She had hers done in California about 5 years ago so not sure if pricing would be comparable.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
My sister just had one at the beginning of July. Two c-sections and severe diastasis recti. The first few days were pretty rough and she had 2 drains for about 6 days, but at about 2 weeks post op was up and moving around pretty well.
eta: Cost was 16k for both tummy tuck and breast augmentation. Midwest also.
Post # 7
My SIL did it. She’s happy with the results, and does not regret it. She looks good. She also got a boob job at the same time, and she did say that the tummy tuck was a way harder recovery than the boob job.
Post # 8
Great thread! I’ve always been interested in getting a tuck after we are finished having children but I’ve read and heard that the recovery pain is excruciating after 🙁
Post # 9
Two of my best friends have done it, and I actually took both of them as their “person” to take care of them. For both of them recovery was painful and quite longer than they anticipated. I’ve known a few other people who have also had it done.
Friend #1 – two c-sections and always yo-yo’ed with weight, but has been very overweight since having kids. She had it done about 8 or 9 years ago and was not consistent with making sure she corrected bad habits (aka: she has horrible eating habits and does not exercise), and she’s now bigger than she ever was. Honestly in her case it was a huge waste, which I had a suspicion it would be but I’ve always been super supportive of her choice.
Friend #2 – one child, no c-sections, but has had various “work” done over the years. She’s a bit bigger in terms of just being a generally thicker girl. While she basically looks the same, she does have a fairly flat stomach (although it’s not toned). She has recently started working out quite a bit and hopefully that will help her sustain the work she’s had done.
My biggest piece of advice is that you have to 100% be in the right frame of mind when it comes to nutrition and fitness. It’s a major surgery with a painful recovery and for it to be sustainable it has to be a long term thing, not a short term goal. My advice would be to reach your goal weight, and then sustain it for at least 6 months to 1 year before doing the surgery. I have seen too many people, my friends included, who have had it done and gone right back to where they were!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Thanks for the great advice and experiences. Everything I’ve read definitely confirms this is not a weight loss surgery. I’m not terribly unhappy with my size (US16) but man if I didn’t have to tuck my messed up stomach into my pants I’d probably look pretty good. I think I might have a few consults and she what they recommend. Must start somewhere!