Turning 30

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Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I hated turning 30 but for some reason it wasn’t quite as bad as turning 25. 25 was terrible. My own family told me I was the fruitcake nobody wanted and was now an old maid. I had just been dumped like 6 months earlier by the love of my life and then they went and said that shit. I was pretty much on the verge of suicide for a very long time. 

Meanwhile when I turned 30 I was married to someone I love and adore and had just had our baby a few months prior so I was in the thick of hallucinating and not getting much sleep. So it passed without quite as much drama and misery as 25. I think 40 and 50 is probably where I will have more issues with it.

Happy birthday btw!

Post # 17
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6673 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

sbl99 :  I never understood this mindset. You’re essentially thirty today. There is no difference except in your head. You can do all the same things as before, you are just as healthy. Your life expectancy is only going to increase. Better to keep living life than dwelling on a nearly-arbitrary number. Hope you can get over it… be glad it’s the worst of your problems I guess. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I was actually excited to turn 30. I like being a real adult that people take seriously. Plus, when I was still in my 20s I felt more pressure to go out and have fun even though I preferred to stay home watching Netflix most of the time lol no one expects you to be a party animal in your 30s (but you’re still young enough that no one really judges you when you do slam a few back). 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I’m a firm believer that another year older is another year I’m lucky enough to have. I’ve never been sad about getting older and I don’t see myself every being like that.

Although I haven’t turned 30 yet, I’m really excited to. Usually people become more stable, confident and just care less by 30 and I love that. All of my friends who are 30+ love that they know their friends aren’t going anywhere and they know what they want from life while your 20s can be full of question marks. 

Happy early birthday and I hope you have an awesome birthday week!! 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

sbl99 :  hahaha you’re born on the same day as Taylor Swift.  Don’t ask how I know this ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

sarathemermaid :  ditto for me. Well said! 

I’m in my late 20s now and can’t wait to hit my 30s. I mean I’ve always known who I am and haven’t changed, but like for some reason the number 30 validates everything lol. It helps that most of our friends are mid to late 30s and up and living it up-no fricks given. 

sbl99 :  you’re gonna have a great next chapter! Happy early birthday and enjoy all that you’ve done and will do! 
Words to live by: “I eat cake because it’s someone’s birthday somewhere” ๐Ÿ˜€ 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

I remember feeling a little weird when I turned 30, but it passed quickly. I’m 35 now, and I have to say my 30s have been much better than my 20s. Everything is more settled, everyone’s more mature so there’s less drama, it’s just much better.

The only thing I struggle with now is that I’ve gone from being the youngest in the office to one of the oldest, and we keep hiring people who make me feel ancient! Our current apprentice was born in 2003…

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I was a little angsty about turning 30, but once it happened I was 100% fine. Relieved even…after all, being 30 means you don’t have to worry about another age milestone (40) for quite some time!

My 20’s were a mixed bag…I did lots of awesome stuff, lived it up as a single girl, traveled the world, got my career underway, had some heartbreak, made some dumb decisions, learned my lesson, etc. My 30’s have been a much more “emotionally stable” time so far and as cliche as it sounds, I’ve grown a lot as a person. I got married, had a child, and just generally feel more secure in myself. My life is a lot less exciting, but I feel more grounded and have no desire to go back to my 20’s! 

Post # 25
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Busy bee

DappledDuchess :  Agreed about 25! I spent my 25th birthday drunkenly weeping about the state of my life after one two many rounds of flip cup at a bleak pub. My 30th birthday was spent sipping luxurious cocktails at “the best bar in the Middle East” with my now husband, feeling nothing but excitement for what the future might hold.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Dracut, Massachusetts

I’m 33. The only thing I wish I could do is telling younger me that I was being stupid, but hey! Life is better now. I’m getting married, hopefully when we move we can get a doggo, have kids soon, be able to move in positions now that I have experience, etc.

I don’t really celebrate any of my birthdays, I haven’t since I was about 10 years old. I don’t like when other people make me go out, it’s just not my thing.

I had some goals, and I didn’t complete them, but life gets in the way so I’m not worried about it.

No on Jersey Shore, I never really got into that show but one of my friends is obsessed with it and she’s 32, so no one really cares lol!

Also the older I have gotten, the uglier I’m willing to go out in public and not give a shit about what other people think. I’ll go out in my corgi christmas pants (in an entirely different season), my hair up and a mess, no make up, and depending  on how warm, or cold it is I’ll wear my fish flops lol (they are ridiculous)  or ugg boots.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

skunktastic :  “be glad it’s the worst of your problems I guess”. Honestly, I’m so fed up of this mentality that if we complain about trivial stuff we have nothing bigger going on in our lives. Sometimes we complain about the trivial stuff because there’s a lot of other stuff going on in our lives that we have no control over. A few years ago I knew a fireman, he wasn’t looking forward to his shift because his crew were going to be complaining about the automatic door not working. I asked how they could complain about something so small when they see what they do day in and day out. He told me that they have no control over that stuff and can’t take it too much to heart so the things they think have control over, like automatic doors, means they lose their shit when it doesn’t work and they realise they have no control over it. Everyone is allowed to complain about trivial shit, even if you personally don’t get it. Even if they only have trivial shit going on, we don’t need to belittle their experience – someone is always having a worse time than you.

sbl99 :  I’m turning 30 in February. I’m not worried yet, more excited. I think it’s because I’ve got a big holiday booked though and I know I have to be 30 to get my two week holiday in the Caribbean. My husband is only a few weeks younger and we will have also been together for 10 years – so next year is a bit of a celebration year for us. However, I’m a bit upset that my career isn’t more where I hoped it would be by now. You’re meant to have it together by 30 and I just feel like I’m getting it less and less together each day (ont he career front anyway). I also think my meltdown will probably hit for 31. We’re going to start TTC next year so I imagine TTC as I turn 31, I’ll feel very critical of my age! Have a great birthday!

Post # 28
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503 posts
Busy bee

loz24 :  agreed, I don’t get the smug contempt for someone feeling a bit angsty over a major age milestone. It’s pretty normal to take stock of your life when you have a “big” birthday coming up, and dismissing OP’s mixed emotions as “she must lead a charmed life to be upset over that” is judgmental and sanctimonious AF. 

Post # 29
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I wasn’t at all nervous about turning 30, but honestly, it’s been a weird few months and I now totally get the angst people feel. I don’t envision myself doing my job forever, but I have no idea what I want to do. I haven’t traveled the places I want to travel. I’m now far enough into 30 that I’ll be at least 31 when we have a kid (realistically, it’s probably closer to 32) which is weird to me. I thought I’d have it all figured out, but I don’t. 

To be fair though, none if it is caused by the number 30 itself, just the societal expectation that you’re somehow a real adult who should have everything together by now. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

I am just starting to wrap up year 30. I’ll be 31 in February! Whoa. I definitely feel a little different getting ready for that, but 30 has been an amazing year. For me, time is gonna march on and it only matters what I do with it. Sure, my super fun go-go days are over (sad face), but I am on the right path. I hear ya, though. It’s all happening and I kinda wish I could put 29 and 30 on a loop. Try to focus on your growth. Sending support!

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