(Closed) turning into Bridezilla over photographer and more. help!

posted 4 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
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Honey bee

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kasha:  photography is extremely important and I wouldn’t be ok with my Fiance choosing a subpar photographer, especially without my consent. I would cancel. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee

Also, I’d make sure you have another photographer boo before cancelling since your wedding is rather close 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

he vetoed your photographers, you veto his.  If he already asked, his problem, not yours, he has to cancel. period.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

He blew your budget without discussing it with you, plus he veto’d several photographers you liked and is now not extending that same courtesy to you. I completely understand why you’re upset; I would be furious. You two need to find a photographer you agree on. I wouldn’t give in on this just to save face. Photography is one of the only parts of your wedding that is meant to last years and years.

ETA: If you do decide to go with this guy, please GET A CONTRACT. Write one up yourself if you have to. It’s especially important with friendors.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’d be pissed and I would veto this photographer (like he did with all of yours!). He asked without consulting you and now he gets to be in the awkward situation of telling this guy that his services will no longer be needed. You aren’t being a bridezilla your Fiance is being a groomzilla.

I would try using Thumbtack to find a photographer. I found mine there, his work is fantastic and he’s only charging us $1000 for 6 hours and all the rights to our edited photos.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

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kasha:  Nope, nope, nope. I would let the guest list thing go, as it’s pretty common for the guest list to balloon unfortunately (ours sure did). But the photography? Nope. He didn’t confirm with you before asking this guy, so too bad if he doesn’t like canceling – that’s on him. I wouldn’t go for a subpar photographer just because my fiance is too chicken-shit to cancel (sorry for the harsh words, I’m mad for you!). 

Have you looked at The Burks photography? They’re based out of NC, but travel pretty regularly for weddings from what I gather. They did the wedding of a friend of ours, and our friends were really happy with the photos. You might want to give them a google.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

well.. ok so 

You’re right, you can’t get something for nothing.  I’m not surprised anyone under $1500 was subpar–the two people I know who’ve charged that much were just starting out.  By their second season they were up to $3k at least… though their portfolios online only had 1-2 weddings (they did more, they just didn’t have time to make an online portfolio of them i guess).

If you’re gonna spend $3k, you can get a hell of a lot more than what this guy is offering.  Your fiance can’t veto all your decisions and then go make decisions without consulting you.  Hell no.  Veto this.  Who cares if you offend him–it’s your wedding photos for crying out loud.  Just say you decided to go wtih someone with more experience.  Unless you’ve already paid him, you’re fine.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

Idea: You’re so close to the border you could get a Canadian photographer.  Since the exchange rate is so good right now, the amount it’d cost to fly/drive them down plus their fee you might be able to find someone who is actually pretty darn experienced for under $3k total.

(the exchange rate is predicted to go down to 60 cents to the dollar in about a year.  It’s currently 70 cents to the dollar.)

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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kasha:  honestly, if my fiancee pulled a stunt like that on me it’d make my blood boil.  I’m the one who planned almost our entire wedding, and I never booked anyone without consulting him (or making sure he had no opinion).  You obviously paid him that courtesy–or else he wouldn’t have vetoed your choices.  SO disrespectful.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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kasha:  why not go with that guy?  Just tell the family friend your Fiance booked one of two things:

– Unfortunately, we were wrong when we thought we could find enough wiggle room in the budget to pay your fee.  We’ll have to go with someone else less expensive.  (Not offensive at all–any wedding vendor understands budget constraints.)

– We’d prefer if you were there as our guest, to enjoy the day with us.  We’d hate if you couldnt enjoy our wedding becuase you’re working the whole time

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Editing should definitely be a part of the package. That is very important. Your FI’s email exchange is so frustrating!

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