(Closed) turning up at a friends wedding uninvited?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jellibeanism:  Yeah, thats just rude.

Post # 4
Member
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow, incredibly rude!  I don’t even know what I would have done if I was the bride in that situation!!

Post # 5
Member
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That is rude.  I would be mortified if that happened.  What an unnecessarily awkward situation to deal with!

Post # 6
Member
1736 posts
Bumble bee

Definitely rude. If they wanted to give a gift to the bride and groom as a truly heartfelt gesture, they would have arranged for it to be sent to their home or proposed have dinner on a night convenient to all.  To me it appears that the gifts were a way to hopefully get invited to stay for the party…incredibly rude in my book.

Post # 7
Member
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it’s rude. They could have just had the gifts sent to their house.

Post # 8
Member
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel like they definitely just did it to make the bride feel guilty. They could have very easily sent presents at a separate time. 

Post # 9
Member
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Definately rude.

Post # 10
Member
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Rude!!!

 

And, I’m curious – how were they dressed?  Wedding guest attire?  I’m wondering if they showed up hoping she’d be like, “Oh just stay and have fun!”

Post # 12
Member
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it was rude. Maybe they were hoping to be told to stay and have some fun.

I had a friend of my friend that I’ve only met like 3 times show up uninvited and I wasn’t very happy about it and on top of it she didn’t even bring a gift, just drank a bunch of the alcohol I purchased for GUESTS. People just don’t know what is too far apparently.

Post # 14
Member
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Definitely hoping that they were going to be asked to stay and party so yes, it’s rude and manipulative.

Post # 15
Member
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Rude!

Post # 16
Member
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

How old are they? Either they were trying to be rude, or maybe they just haven’t been to many weddings and don’t get that you can’t just show up, gifts or not. If they were dressed casually, I might lean toward the latter.

The topic ‘turning up at a friends wedding uninvited?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors