TO @Feeling_Awkward: you said,
We’re not concerned about FI’s price, we don’t mind paying that for OUR wedding, I just hate that it would cost that much for the GMs and what not. I mean.. that is A LOT for someone elses wedding.
YES and NO…
You have to remember that when it comes to the Male members of the Bridal Party… their overall costs tend to be less than the Female members… (Dress, Shoes, Lingerie, Hair, Makeup, Accessories… Shower Responsibilities… Bachelorette if there is one – Bridesmaids Joint Gift for the Bride… Gift for the Couple… PLUS transportation to the Wedding*)
Guys expenses tend to just be Suit / Tux Rental – Socks & Shoes… Bachelor Party if there is one… and a Gift for the Couple – PLUS transportation to the Wedding. (They don’t usually do the other gift giving stuff… such as a Gift for the Groom, or have the commitment of a Shower etc)
Therefore, don’t feel too bad for the men.
It all equals out in the long run.
Hope this helps,
I am one of the resident Etiquette Snobs here on WBee (comes with my career)… so
* EXPENSES – Bride usually pays for the Dresses for the Bridesmaids… and any items from the list above that she wants to be all matched up (ie Shoes, Hair, Makeup, Accessories, Jewellery). AND NONE of those items are to be designated as your Thank You Gifts… as you are wanting them (in that Thank You Gifts to the Bridal Party should be something each member would appreciate / like for themselves… NOT because they are doing you a favour / in your Wedding).
Altho the Bridesmaid will pay her own way to the Wedding City… the Bride / Couple usually pay for Accommodations & Meals, as well as ALL Transportation to and from Wedding Events (Hotel to Rehearsal, Dinner and back to Hotel – Hotel to Ceremony – Ceremony to Reception – Reception to Hotel)
Same stuff above appllies to the “guy’s version”…