Post # 16
I’m from the UK so over here, the couple pay for bridal party attire. I totally agree with you re rentals: I really cannot stand cheap or ill-fitting suits. However, I also don’t think it’s reasonable for a couple to insist that people buy an expensive suit for their wedding.
What we did was compromise. We couldn’t afford to buy good suits for the groomsmen, so we simpyl asked them to wear a grey suit, which they all owned. Unfortunately, it turned out that all bar one person had put on weight, and so needed new suits. Our compromise was to give them enough money to cover a rental suit, and let them decide what they wanted to do with it. They all chose to buy suits, putting the cash we gave them (around $100; we also provided their ties and cufflinks) towards a suit. It worked well and meant they all co-ordinated, and were wearing suits that looked good and fit properly.
Could you perhaps do something similar, and have them cover the cost of rental (which they’d be paying anyway) with you guys paying the difference so that they can buy something decent? I wouldn’t be too concerned about fabric; the crucial thing is fit. My OH has a cheap tux that he bought for a fancy dress party and he paid about £80/$130 for it: it fits well and looks absolutely fine. The fit is the key thing IMO.
Post # 17
Cheap suits that fit, even if they are junk, when properly aletered, look better than the highest quality rentals. So, take the rental budget, and spend it on cheap, or vintage, suits and call it done.
Post # 18
I agree on the good fit! Though keep in mind that in all likelyhood the number of photos that you will have on display of the groomsmen will probably not be too many. They will be in your album, but the ones you have OUT will probably be out you and your husband. So make sure his suit/tux is the priority.
I think it’s great that youcan afford to pay if that’s what you want to do. If you DO decide to go rental, which again, there are generally fit issues, I have heard on here I think that this company does better fits then MW or JoAB. https://theblacktux.com/
I didn’t try them myself though because he had no bridal party and DH got a custom tux. But just thought I’d throw it out as another option.
Post # 19
msvintagect: That sounds awful. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Thanks for warning me about the cluster I may encounter. I’m not a huge fan of Men’s Warehouse either. Last time we went there for suits, it was a strange experience. Our sales guy was knowledgeable but was trying to push his Jersey Shore/Great Gatsby style on the SO. I was very specific about what we were purchasing and the style. I could have slapped him in the face…it should have taken 1 hour, but instead we were there for THREE FREAKING HOURS. It got to the point where I had to blatantly tell him the things he kept pulling were ugly so he would let me pick what he and I like.
On top of that, the poor seamstress was stressed and spread thin to the max; I believe she was the only one staffed for the day…seriously? Our guy also tried to argue with me about the break in the pants.
Thanks for your insight!
Post # 20
You just answered my next question- can I concentrate on the groom’s good looks and let the rest of them fend for themselves
Thank you for your input.
Post # 22
we rented our tuxes from a local (1 store) tuxedo house. DH had been renting tuxes from them for 15 years and knows the owners son. you don’t have to go to chain, do you have a tuxedo store in your area, google it, i’m sure you do.
Post # 23
I agree. That’s an excellent idea. Yeah- I am most concerned about the fit.
Post # 24
I plan to ask our groomsmen to buy a $150-$200 suit from Overstock.com or Macy’s. Both stores have some decent options in that range, and that’s about what the birdesmaids will be expected to pay as well. I was shocked when I found out the rental price for suits/tuxes. It’s almost the same as buying them!
My boyfriend got a nice suit at Burlington for about $120. We were shocked at how good the price was! Burlington is of course a little less likely to have the kind of size selection as another store, but if everyone can go at the same time they might be able to find the sizes they need.
Post # 25
- Wedding: October 2015 - Coastal Maine inn
I completely agree that all clothing is not created equal! I can always tell the difference between a rental and a bought and tailored-to-you suit. Not that any of your guests would notice, but if it’s something that would bother you I think it’s totally reasonable to request it. We’re asking the groomsmen to buy the same Joseph A. Bank (or similar) navy suit, then getting plain white shirts from Target, and bowties from Etsy.
All told, it will probably wind up being less expensive than what the bridesmaids will be spending. My feeling is that if you accept a spot on the bridal party, you’re acknowledging that there are financial commitments associated with it (attire, travel, etc). Of course, it’s best to check in with everyone on budget and come to number that is comfortable for everyone, but if they say they’re game, go for it!
Post # 26
I don’t know if he was trying to push you longer or shorter, but I find sales staff and alterations tailors are terrible about break. They always a to want absurd puddling instead of a nice break. I always have to have this argument when I buy pants. “Your socks will show!” yeah, I’m a grown man, and I’m not planning to wear white sweat socks so it’ll be OK, I’ll look better and my pants won’t get holes at the Jenn from dragging the ground. My suspenders will hold them up, not my shoes.