Post # 1
I’ve seen many threads on other boards about who, if anyone, is walking the bride down the aisle. I’ve noticed that most of the younger brides (in their 20s) have their dad or some other father/mother figure walk them down, whereas most of the people who walk the aisle alone are either over 30, or it’s their second marriage, or both. I’m just wondering…are there any twenty-something brides entering their first marriage who are walking the aisle alone?
I’m 22, will be 23 at our wedding, this will be my first, and I am solid in my decision to walk alone. I don’t feel as if I’m anyone’s to be “given away”, or that the symbolism of my dad walking me down, kissing my cheek, and letting me take the final steps towards my Fiance really fits my situation. I am my own person and the path in life that led me to my Fiance, I walked alone, so the symbolic aisle walk should be made alone too. If anything I’ll have Fiance walk up the aisle, meet me halfway, and we’ll walk the rest of the way to the front together, but no one else will have a part in it.
I’m totally not knocking anyone who is having their dad (or anyone) give them away or walk them down or anything. If it makes you happy, go for it! I just sometimes feel like I’m the only “young bride” who is choosing to walk the aisle alone.
Anyone else with me?
Post # 3
I’m 23 also, and I’m having both my parents walk me down the aisle.
I am definitely my own person as well, and my parents are not “giving me away”, but are escorting me down the aisle. I see it as a tribute to my parents, because without them I would not be who I am or where I am. It is special to me, but most importantly I know it will be a special honor to them as well. I know neither of them see it as the antiquated notion of giving property away, but rather an acknowledgement and show of gratitude for the roles they have had in my life and my relationship.
I think whatever suits you is what you should do, even if it is a big against the “norm”. In my circle, having both parents rather than just my dad walk me is abnormal… but who cares? Do what is important to you and what you feel best fits your situation.
Post # 4
we’re Jewish, and traditionally both bride and groom walk down the aisle with both parents. our parents were seated in the front row and the altar was raised a few steps, so my hubby waited down by their seats for me, and then hugged my parents while i hugged his. then we entered the huppah (wedding canopy) together. it felt really moving and symbolic–like we were bringing our families together and then moving in to our new family together (the huppah represents the the new home being created by the marriage). i loved it 🙂 it was pretty traditional, but still meaningful to us
eta: we were 26 and 27 at our wedding
Post # 5
@finnaroo: thats lovely!!
I feel similarly- I see it as a tribute.
Post # 6
I’m 24 (was 23 when I married) and I had my dad walk me down the aisle.
Like Sunshining, to me it had nothing to do with them “giving me away” or being property or that I wasn’t my own strong, independent woman who walks my own path in life and makes my own decisions. It had to do with honoring them and the role that they played in my life, growth and development. Without my parents, I wouldn’t be the strong, independent, confident woman that I am.
But to each their own. I take no issue with those who want to walk alone. It just isn’t what I wanted.
Post # 7
I’m 28 and will be 29 when I get married. So I guess I’m at the tail end of the 20-somethings…My dad will be walking me down the aisle. I don’t have the best relationship with him, but he really wants to and it’d break his heart if I told him otherwise. Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal to me and I’ve never really analyzed the symbolism (“giving away”) of having my dad walk me down the aisle. For me, it’s really simple. He wants to, it’s not a big deal to me, so I’m letting him.
Post # 8
An acquaintance of mine was 20 going on 21 when she got married and she walked down the aisle alone (her dad passed away when she was quite young, so I’m not sure if this was part of the decision). And then there’s my Aunt (who was 36 at the time) who had her Mum give her away. When it comes to walking down the aisle, for a lot of brides it feels like tradition. For others, it may be a way to honour their parents, or others, who supported them early in life. And for some, like yourself, it may not feel right at all to have someone give you away, no matter the age. Whatever suits you and who you are!
I’m not sure how much of an “aisle” we’ll have, but I’d really like to have both my parents walk me to my Fiance since they’re both a part of my life and I wouldn’t be here or who I am without them.
Post # 9
I was 25 when we go tmarried, and I couldn’t imagine anyone but my Dad walking me down the aisle. We have always been super close, so it was never a question in my mind that he would do the deed.
Post # 10
I’m not completely decided yet- it’ll either be both my mom & stepdad or I’ll go it alone.
Post # 11
At 21 I wanted my mom and dad, both, but in the end it will be my dad and I as my grandfather will be accompaning my mom (his daughter)
Post # 13
I will be 24 when we get married and both my dad and step dad are walking me down the aisle. No other arrangement seemed appropriate without hurting anyone’s feelings so hoepfully then can get along for the big day!
Post # 14
I’m 25 and my step dad is walking me down the aisle. I don’t see it as him “giving me away” (FI and I have lived together, on our own for 6 years), it’s more of a respect thing. He’s been my father figure for more than 10 years so he’s earned the right to walk me down the aisle. Honestly, I think he would have been hurt if I decided to walk alone.
Post # 15
I’m not walking alone but I totally can understand why you would want to walk down the aisle by yourself. Everyone has different relationships with their family/fiance etc so its really whatever feels right to YOU!! I actually cannot stand a lot of wedding traditions because I feel like they are very outdated and sometimes sexist. I would never let someone GIVE me away because this is not the early 1900’s and I dont BELONG to anyone. I am having my dad walk me down the aisle but only as a tribute to how close we are. My dad is literally one of my best friends and I have been extrememly close with him my whole life. He is the one that encouraged me to be different anf break the mold and I feel like him walking WITH me down the aisle is just a testament to the strength of our relationship. I did also ask my mom if she wanted to walk down with us but she said she no. She thinks it should be my dad and I since we are so close.
But yeah I thnk if you feel like you should walk down the aisle alone then it is totally up to you. I commend you for not feeling like you have to do what everyone wants you to do!
Post # 16
@napabridekelsey: You took the words right out of my mouth! I’m such a daddy’s girl!