(Closed) Twenty-somethings…who, if anyone, is walking you down the aisle?

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m 23 also, and I’m having both my parents walk me down the aisle.

I am definitely my own person as well, and my parents are not “giving me away”, but are escorting me down the aisle. I see it as a tribute to my parents, because without them I would not be who I am or where I am. It is special to me, but most importantly I know it will be a special honor to them as well. I know neither of them see it as the antiquated notion of giving property away, but rather an acknowledgement and show of gratitude for the roles they have had in my life and my relationship.

I think whatever suits you is what you should do, even if it is a big against the “norm”. In my circle, having both parents rather than just my dad walk me is abnormal… but who cares? Do what is important to you and what you feel best fits your situation.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

we’re Jewish, and traditionally both bride and groom walk down the aisle with both parents. our parents were seated in the front row and the altar was raised a few steps, so my hubby waited down by their seats for me, and then hugged my parents while i hugged his. then we entered the huppah (wedding canopy) together. it felt really moving and symbolic–like we were bringing our families together and then moving in to our new family together (the huppah represents the the new home being created by the marriage). i loved it 🙂 it was pretty traditional, but still meaningful to us

eta: we were 26 and 27 at our wedding

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@finnaroo: thats lovely!!

 

 

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@Sunshining: I feel similarly- I see it as a tribute.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m 24 (was 23 when I married) and I had my dad walk me down the aisle.

Like Sunshining, to me it had nothing to do with them “giving me away” or being property or that I wasn’t my own strong, independent woman who walks my own path in life and makes my own decisions.  It had to do with honoring them and the role that they played in my life, growth and development.  Without my parents, I wouldn’t be the strong, independent, confident woman that I am.

But to each their own.  I take no issue with those who want to walk alone.  It just isn’t what I wanted.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m 28 and will be 29 when I get married. So I guess I’m at the tail end of the 20-somethings…My dad will be walking me down the aisle. I don’t have the best relationship with him, but he really wants to and it’d break his heart if I told him otherwise. Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal to me and I’ve never really analyzed the symbolism (“giving away”) of having my dad walk me down the aisle. For me, it’s really simple. He wants to, it’s not a big deal to me, so I’m letting him.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

An acquaintance of mine was 20 going on 21 when she got married and she walked down the aisle alone (her dad passed away when she was quite young, so I’m not sure if this was part of the decision). And then there’s my Aunt (who was 36 at the time) who had her Mum give her away. When it comes to walking down the aisle, for a lot of brides it feels like tradition. For others, it may be a way to honour their parents, or others, who supported them early in life. And for some, like yourself, it may not feel right at all to have someone give you away, no matter the age. Whatever suits you and who you are!

I’m not sure how much of an “aisle” we’ll have, but I’d really like to have both my parents walk me to my Fiance since they’re both a part of my life and I wouldn’t be here or who I am without them. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was 25 when we go tmarried, and I couldn’t imagine anyone but my Dad walking me down the aisle. We have always been super close, so it was never a question in my mind that he would do the deed.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m not completely decided yet- it’ll either be both my mom & stepdad or I’ll go it alone.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

At 21 I wanted my mom and dad, both, but in the end it will be my dad and I as my grandfather will be accompaning my mom (his daughter)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My daddy 🙂

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I will be 24 when we get married and both my dad and step dad are walking me down the aisle.  No other arrangement seemed appropriate without hurting anyone’s feelings so hoepfully then can get along for the big day!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m 25 and my step dad is walking me down the aisle. I don’t see it as him “giving me away” (FI and I have lived together, on our own for 6 years), it’s more of a respect thing. He’s been my father figure for more than 10 years so he’s earned the right to walk me down the aisle. Honestly, I think he would have been hurt if I decided to walk alone.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m not walking alone but I totally can understand why you would want to walk down the aisle by yourself.  Everyone has different relationships with their family/fiance etc so its really whatever feels right to YOU!! I actually cannot stand a lot of wedding traditions because I feel like they are very outdated and sometimes sexist.  I would never let someone GIVE me away because this is not the early 1900’s and I dont BELONG to anyone. I am having my dad walk me down the aisle but only as a tribute to how close we are.  My dad is literally one of my best friends and I have been extrememly close with him my whole life.  He is the one that encouraged me to be different anf break the mold and I feel like him walking WITH me down the aisle is just a testament to the strength of our relationship.  I did also ask my mom if she wanted to walk down with us but she said she no. She thinks it should be my dad and I since we are so close.

But yeah I thnk if you feel like you should walk down the aisle alone then it is totally up to you.  I commend you for not feeling like you have to do what everyone wants you to do!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@napabridekelsey: You took the words right out of my mouth! I’m such a daddy’s girl!

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