(Closed) Twenty-somethings…who, if anyone, is walking you down the aisle?

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 47
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m 26 and right now the plan is for both parents to walk me down the aisle, but my stepfather is lobbying to replace my father. The more I think about it the more I like the idea of walking alone.

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My priest said that I could have my dad walk me down the sidewalk to the church (because the groom and I stop and have the first part of the ceremony right inside the doors) but right now, my folks are withholding their blessing because I won’t wait another year to be married… so… I’m walking myself to the doors. 

I don’t know what I’d do if I had their blessing… I’d probably still walk myself because it doesn’t feel the same as walking down an aisle. If I had the traditional protestant wedding, I’d probably have my Mum walk me down the aisle, and that way I wouldn’t offend my dad or stepdad.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If my dad can’t make it (which is looking very possible) then I’ll walk myself down. Meh.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t speak to my biological father, and my stepdad and I have more of a business relationship; I grew into the productive member of society I am today not because helped me to develop a sense of responsibility, but because he doesn’t have a nurturing bone in his body. The fact that I’m a fairly normal person is in spite of him, not because of him.

I do not under any circumstances want him walking me down the aisle, and that’s going to cause some major drama. But he has a tendency of “supporting” me when everyone’s watching, and saying verbally abusive things to me when they’re not. It’s beyond dysfunctional, and I don’t want a part of that on my wedding day.

I’m probably going to play the “I’m not property” card- I’m a pretty big feminist, and I’m not totally comfortable with the idea of being “given away” anyway. Hopefully my family just accepts that.

Though if I liked my dad, I might not take issue with it like this.

 

ETA- I’m 19, will be 21 on the wedding day.

Post # 51
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My step dad will be walking me down the isle, we all dont look at it as “giving me away”but I still have that special relationship with him and I want him to walk me down the isle.

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ll be 27, almost 28 when I’m married, and I’ll be having both of my parents walk me down the aisle. I’d really just rather have my mom do it, but I think my father would be highly offended and I’d never hear the end of it from my grandparents. So both parents it is : )

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

im 25 (almost 26) and will be 29 when i walk down the aisle with my dad 🙂

Post # 54
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

When I first met my officiant, he told me that it is no longer a tradition for a woman to be “given away.” Well, this made me upset because I enjoy tradition. And as a kid growing up in the 21st century it doesn’t really exist, so my wedding is where I get to have my traditional things:) I looked really upset so my fiance asked him if he could say that, and he said of course, just most women these days prefer not to. I was so giddy after that.

Bottom line: I like tradition! My father will be walking me down the aisle and “give me away”:D… P.S. I”ll be 18 when I get married(so, im not old, i genuily like tradition:))

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My father and my step father will be walking me down the aisle.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Update on my previous post: DH and I walked down the aisle together.  Best. Decision. Ever.  For us, at least.

Post # 57
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m having my Dad walk me down the aisle.  I think it is a special moment for a Father and their Daughter during the ceremony.  I can’t imagine not having my Dad walk me down the aisle.  My Dad and I are super close.  I’ll be wearing a blusher.

However, I think it’s totally fine if you want to go solo.  If it works for you I say go for it!

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We are having a mostly Jewish ceremony.  (I’m Jewish, he’s not.)  We will each be escorted by our parents, and then they will have the option of standing under the chuppah with us.  I know my parents want to; I’m not sure about his mom since it’s not part of her church’s tradition.  I see it as representative of our families being joined.  No one is going to be “giving me away”.

Disclaimer: We are both in our 30s.

Post # 60
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Bee Keeper

Papa Gemstone. 🙂

Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Both of my parents walked me down the aisle, though my mom really didn’t want to use language that made me seem like a possession- i.e., “giving away,” so instead we had the officiant say, “who gives their blessing for this union?” and my parents both said, “we do.” My husband also walked down the aisle with both parents.

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