(Closed) Twenty-somethings…who, if anyone, is walking you down the aisle?

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 76
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Sugar bee

I am 24 and my dad is walking me. He has been there for me through everything in my life and besides Fiance, is my very best friend. We will cry and laugh the whole way down the aisle.

Post # 77
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Newbee

I’m 25, will most likely be 27 at the wedding (not yet engaged.. but soon!), and I would like to have both my parents walk me down the isle.  It isn’t about them giving me away, but rather that they are escorting me down the isle.  

Post # 78
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@AmeliaBedelia: Welcome!  We also looked at it from the perspective of this isn’t an arranged marriage / the bride isn’t a piece of property to be given away…because that’s where that tradition comes from.  My dad had also passed away two months before the wedding, so I think I would have been an emotional mess had my grandpa or someone else walked me down.  My mom totally supported us, too.  😀

Post # 79
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

 I’m 20, and won’t be having anyone walk me down. As you said, “I am my own person and the path in life that led me to my Fiance, I walked alone, so the symbolic aisle walk should be made alone too.” We’ve forged our own path, have lived together for awhile now, and our relationship is ours. I’m not property, and while I don’t chide other people for taking this path (pun intended), it would make me feel like I’m being handed off from owner to owner. Yuck. So, just not the right choice for me, or you, or the other brides who don’t do it.

Also, I don’t talk to my father, and my mom’s on her third husband (my dad was her first) and I’m not close to my current stepdad, either. I did consider having Future Father-In-Law walk me down since he’s been great, but this fits us better. We also considered having FI’s brother, who is 28 and has Down’s Syndrome, walk me partway down, but this works better overall as well.

I’ve had a *lot* of people give me weird looks over the many non-traditional things that we’re doing, and this is a biggie. I’ve been asked so many times by older relatives and co-workers why not.

So, no, you’re very much not alone.

 

 

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My future hubby and I will walk down the asile together after our bridal party. We want to begin our journey together. 

We will be helping put stuff together all day seperate and get ready, have a first look and follow our bridal party down the asile.

I am not close to my day and no offense to those who want this. I can’t get over the feeling that someone walking me down the asile and handing me off to my fiance waiting at the end of the asile seems like selling me in marriage. I just can’t get over that feeling. 

We are starting our journey together and will walk down the first road to the rest of our life together. 

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ll be 26 when we get married and I’m thinking of walking down the aisle alone. I’ve seen my Dad like 3 times in the past 6 years and there’s a lot of things that happened that make me not want to include him at all. My grandparents haven’t confirmed yet that they will be coming (our wedding is in Ireland, I 7.5 hr flight away, they’re both 75+) but if they do come I will ask my Opa to walk me down the aisle.

Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ll be 22 at the time and my then 4 year old son will “give” me away.

Post # 83
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

both parents

Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am in my 20s.  My younger brother will be giving me away as my father and his side of the family are not welcome.

Post # 85
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I will be walking with my Dad and wouldn’t have it any other way. 

Post # 86
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I will be walking with my Dad and wouldn’t have it any other way. 

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Interesting thread revival. I debated long and hard about this, and eventually came to an arrangement that pleased everyone.

To honor my lovely parents, and as a nod to the Jewish side of the family, my mother and father will walk with me halfway down the aisle. We will pause, they’ll probably kiss my cheeks (photo op?) and I will wait until they take their places standing at their seats. I will then continue on to my almost-husband by myself, and we will stand in front of the officiant together. 

I asked Fiance and his parents if they wanted to walk together, but he said no and his mother didn’t like the idea — no clue as to why. So, as per Christian tradition, he’ll wait at the front with the officiant.

The officiant will ask both sets of parents “who brings the love and support of Bride/Groom’s family?” He’ll ask me if I come of my own free will, then ask my fiance the same thing. The ceremony will continue from there.

 

Post # 88
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am 20 will be almost 21 when I am married and my daddy will be walking me 🙂

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