Post # 1
So……my fiance’ and I are having a legal ceremony with just our parents. We are doing this for a couple key reasons that are important to us. We are also planning a marriage celebration 6 months later with all of our family and friends. So my question is regarding the second ceremony. Is it okay to still have the whole procession of bridal shower, walk down the isle, exchange rings, etc. if we are already legally married? I don’t plan on keeping it a secret but really don’t want to offend anyone (seems impossible but would like to try). I am also struggling a bit with the wording on the invites…. Anyone else deal with this?
Post # 3
The second event is a renewal of vows. Just do one shower. You can still walk down the aisle and exchange rings.
Post # 4
@britoamor: I don’t think I understand what the “procession of bridal shower” is. There is the processional down the aisle, and the shower party.
I think you are ok to have a wedding shower, as long as it takes place before you are actually married (first event).
As for the 2nd event, I am personally very against a 2nd marriage ceremony so close to the first. It isn’t really a renewal only a few months out (there really isn’t anything to renew). I think a blessing is ok though if you are religious.
But I do think once you are already married you have to forgo some of the more traditional elements. I am not a fan of a “show wedding”. You are married, so by all means celebrate with your family and have a huge celebration.
Post # 5
I agrree with everything andielovesj stated.
Post # 6
i think its your wedding, your life, you should do what makes you happy. and it seems that having the full on ceremony 6 months later is what will make you happy. i dont know why you dont do it all at once, but i am sure there is a valid reason. my sister for example got legally married in Spain and they had to get married before she could come back with her husband to Canada. But she really wanted her wedding in Canada with family and friends and so had a wedding/vow renewal – whatever you want to call it. She had bridesmaids walk down the ailse, she had an officiant have them say vows and exchange rings. everything. its a one time experience, and why would you want to miss out because of whatever reason you have for having to get legally married six months prior? i would never judge a friend for this and would be happy to attend their second ceremony/vow renewal, or my sister called it “marriage celebration”.
Post # 7
oh and as for invites, just use the words “marriage celebration” in place of “wedding” and then use any wedding invitation template that you like.
Post # 8
Hi Bees, Thank you kindly for your thoughtful advice. We actually decided NOT to have two “weddings”. FI’s mom kind of talked us out of it and brought up several great points. We do have a very rational reason for possibly needing to get legally married before our big day. But we will only cross that bridge if needed.