oh i just had to come in here and comment, i couldn’t resist! First of all, i have outed myself as a Twihard on WB (and to everyone in my real life), so i have no shame in my love of it. I do agree with what the OP is saying. I don’t really understand why people get sooo worked up over the reasons they hate Twilight. I mean I understand why people say its not appropriate for young, impressionable girls and all that. its probably true, but i also think that this whole “anti Twilight” thing has been extremely and grossly overblown. I don’t understand why people get so worked up over something they don’t like. When i don’t like things, i just don’t think about it too much or care about it. At least for something like a movie saga.
However, starting a thread about this? i don’t understand this either. I love Twilight and i revel in loving it. Do i care that so many people around me give me funny looks and constantly put down what i love? maybe sometimes, ya i care a little, then i go read the books again or watch the movies again and i realize i actually couldn’t care less what other people are saying because i just thoroughly enjoyed those 2 hours of my life and while watching/reading it, i thought of nothing else. Basically, I would never start a thread like this is because i simply don’t care (enough) what other people think. It does not take away from my enjoyment whatsoever and never will.
I am in the camp that its a great escape for me. I love to get caught up in fantasy romance stories. i also love vampires. and no, it doesn’t bother me that they sparkle, i thought it was neat and a different twist on vampires. my first experience with a vampire story was a book called “The Last Vampire” by Chirstopher Pike, and in that book the vampires could walk out in the sun and only needed to wear sunglasses, so i guess i am used to vampires being portrayed differently in each story/context/ – doesn’t bother me at all!
I also thought i would try to answer some twihater’s comments about how they don’t understand why people love it so much, you know because of the horrible writing/bad acting and all that. Well, i guess i can say that the first time I read Twilight, and every time i read any of the books, i feel like i am really in Bella’s head. I see/feel it from her perspective. So i was not analyzing the dialogue or prose, i was just getting to know Edward and falling in love. it was really as simple as that. When i read it, i was not thinking “omg, this is a horrible role model for young girls, this is an example of an abusive relationship being romanticized”. i never once had those thoughts because i was just enjoying the love story too much. AND, throughout the whole series, i am fully aware of how un-realistic the whole thing is BECAUSE Edward is a vampire and Jacob is a werewolf. Do i think it’s normal for boyfriends to watch their girlfriend sleep? no, of course not, that is stalker-ish and creepy. Did i think this about Edward and Bella? No, BECAUSE he is a vampire who cannot sleep and he was so in love with Bella that it just made sense in that world/story. I don’t generalize it to real life. Do i think a girl should go back to her boyfriend after he abandoned her for months? No, of course not, that’s not the healthy/strong woman thing to do. But when i read New Moon, all i wanted was for Edward to come back, the same way Bella did. And i also think his reasons for leaving her were acceptable – he was afraid his vampire brother was going to eat her. To me that is an exceptional situation. Not one that anyone will ever encounter in real life, because the last time i checked, vampires don’t exist. And regarding the bruises after having sex in the last movie – Do i think that any woman should excuse her husband bruising her because he lost control in the heat of the moment? No of course not, that is physical abuse. Do i think Edward is abusive to Bella? NO WAY! he has super human strength – another exceptional situation that would never occur in real life, so i don’t make the comparison to real life relationships! Anyway, this is why i do not have a problem with the books as role models, because it is all so unrealistic! Perhaps young impressionable girls would see it differently, but I am 31, so I won’t let the fact that is not the best relationship role model prevent me enjoying every last bit of it. I also think it should be pretty simple to pass on this message that its all very unrealistic as it involves supernatural creatures that don’t exist.
What i WILL actually attempt to protect my future hypothetical daughters from reading/watching are things like Gossip Girl and 90210. I cringe at the thought of my 15 year old niece watching these shows because she is in high school and the girls on these shows are in high school having sex with any random guy they meet, often on the first date and its basically what drives all the relationships in those shows. I actually prefer Edward and Bella as a relationship role model when it comes to having sex because they both waited for someone who they were truly in love with and know they wanted to be with forever. And then waited until they were married on top of that – at Edward’s insistence no less. If my hypothetical daughter wants to date a man who respects her so much that he is happy to only watch her sleep – as opposed sleep with her – I would say she found a good guy. That is how I perceived Edward throughout the books. He cares for Bella so much that just holding her hand and kissing is enough for him.