- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Hello everyone. I hope your day to day encounters are not with just one evil sister in law, but two! IDENTICAL TWIN EVIL SISTERS IN LAW! I hit the jackpot of all possible life ruiners.
I met my wonderful fiance in the spring of 2012. He is the most kind, gentle, sweet man. I am very lucky to have found someone like him. After 3 months after meeting him and dating we decided to meet his family. They are simply the nicest people in the world. Very old fashioned, but nice people. His mother is one of the sweetest women, who barely talks, and just keeps to herself. His father is very funny and picks on me, but its all in good fun. The sisters were also very nice to me until about 9 months into the relationship when we started talking about wedding plans. After the Christmas holidays, when my fiance met my family up north, we returned to the south and I expected things to be even better since meeting my parents was also such a success!!!
One of the twin sisters is 40 and married. she has 3 kids. the other one is also 40 and single. I was almost best friends with the single one, because the married one works out of town almost 4/5 days a week. She sort of just dumps her kids off at her mothers and fathers and forgets about them. Anyway..
One Wednesday, a very typical Wednesday… I show up at my future mothers in law to help out with the kids, they always have fun with me and I enjoy kids a lot. I play witht he kids and keep them busy while the mother in law cooks and stuff. I spent about 5/6 days a week at my in laws to pay my respects and make them see how important a relationship with them to me was… The single sister in law walked in on her iphone, on my Facebook. I found it odd since I was right there… Its not like she was on it because she missed me, I was RIGHT THERE…. Anyway… I posted a picture of my face earlier in the day of some new make up I tried. Smokey eyes… She says “wow. this looks like something you would at the street corner.” Essentially comparing me to a prostitute. I found it very insulting, crossing a border, disrespectful and just plain rude. First of all it was a photo of my face. It’s not like my butt was hanging out or something. My fiance heard and saw everything and did nothing. I was very offended. I said nothing even after we left. The next day, she sends me a rude text message about a post on Facebook saying I use the term fiance too loosely and not to create a jinx for myself. I also found this to be out of line, and disrespectful. What else do I refer to mt fiance as other than my fiance? What is it to her anyway? Maybe because she is single, bored and jealous? I don’t know.
Anyway, later on I found a really good quote on Instagram, something along the lines of you have no right to judge me…. I posted it very blindly. Not directing it to anyone specifically. However she saw it and assume it was direct to her. She went and took it to the other sister who is married, claiming that I was publicly insulting her for no reason.
The married on sent a text to my fiance, which happened to go to me because I was making a call from his phone. Anyway… I saw it. And it was a nasty, mean text message that is unwelcome. Anyway… I called her and asked if there was a problem, and why text my fiance if she can just contact me directly? She did not like how I called her out. She is not really used to being confronted because she comes off as intimidating, but so do I, so I never really feared her.
Anyway… They both start posting status’ about me… (Keep in mind they are 40.) …Eventually the situation gets worse. The married one, whose kids I normally watch… Forbids me to see the children… And forbids the children to speak to me. She even spreads rumors about me to their parents, and they no longer ‘invite’ me over like before or even return my calls. It’s terrible. My fiance was officially stuck picking sides….
A few months passed, I went from seeing the family 5/6 days a week to not at all. It was very hurtful to me. Finally it was once of the kids’ birthdays and one of the kids’ sent me text message. Which of course I responded to. The sister took the child’s phone and wrote a nasty text message to me about me, my upbringing (essentially my mother) which is the greatest insult of them all. It’s not like she is a mother at all. 2 days a week out of 5? That is not a mother at all. Prior to this she made a threat to me about telling the parents that I was not a virgin. What business is that of hers? She is out of control! She runs everyone. She tells her own parents who are old and dying that if they are not on her side that they turn their back on her kids and she wont allow them to see the kids… Same to her brother. She is an evil woman! I don’t know what to do!
I started to see therapy to lose some of this anger. She openly says she will break us up… She is not even hiding it. Nobody dares to say anything to her. I am even having nightmares about her! WHAT DO I DO?
PS I TRIED TO SIT DOWN WITH HER. IT ONLY MADE IT WORSE! I started with an apology (i dont know why. and she just started verbally assaulting me…)