(Closed) Twin separation in school…

posted 9 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: would you/did you separate your twins when they started school?

    yes i did - they loved it!

    yes i did - it didn't go well

    no i didn't - but think i should have done now

    no i didn't - and it worked just fine

    other - please explain

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I volunteered at an elementary school for five years (in a kindergarten classroom) and twins who were kept together were…awful troublemakers. They struggled greatly with their work and socialization. I worked with six sets of twins and it was always the same. Sure, not a hands-down sure-thing, but something we noticed.

    Fiance has twin nephews and they were in the same class until halfway through second grade. They also didn’t do well when they were together. Behavorial and academic problems and one didn’t make any friends and relied heavily on his brother, who was more outgoing, bullyish, and had more friends. When they separated halfway through the year, they both greatly improved and it also reflected in their time at home.

    So, I’m pro-separation.

    Post # 18
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    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I am  an identical twin.  My mother always requested my sister and I be in different classes and I would never change a thing.  We were always together and still best friends but it allowed us to make our own friends, have our own special moments with our classmates and teachers, and make our own identities.  It is so detrimental for twins to become too attached to eachother.  Even having always been in separate classes we still had a really hard time going to different colleges.  Now we live on opposite sides of the country and it sucks but we could never have done it without our independence.  Please separate them 🙂

    Post # 19
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    11163 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I just had this discussion with a friend of mine last night (at her daughter’s open house). As a faux auntie I was asked to come along and one of the daughter’s friends is a twin. Apparently they have never been in a class together, on purpose. The school does not allow twins/siblings to be in the same class.

    Their reasoning, to allow the children to become independent without the influence of their sibling/twin. I can see where there would be pros and cons to each side. The mother of the twins said that since the girls started at that school in first grade they have really developed into their own rather than be twin 1 and twin 2. She was very supportive of the process.

    Post # 20
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    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    DH is a twin and he said that he and his sister were always in different classes. they each had their own set of friends as a result, although this also has a lot to do with how different they each are!

    Post # 21
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m not a twin but I did have a set of twins in my classes all through elementary school and they were always in the same class and were fine.

    My sister also had a set of twins in her grade that stayed in the same classes together and they were also just fine.  My sister was really good friends with one of them so we got to see them a lot.

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I am an identical twin. We were never ever in the same class. It was fine, we survived, and I’m pretty sure never really cared. My god-we saw each other 24/7 we were probably glad for the break! We are twins, but my mom was never into us “being twins”. We are very close, but are also able to survive without each other on some level, and I think that is very important while growing up.

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