Post # 1
Well with flu season on the horizon, now is the perfect time for a post which reflects that ha!
So I am an identical twin. My twin sister has always struggled with the identity issue that DOES come with having someone out there who you look just like. She always strives to be louder, bolder and more abrasive. She ALWAYS wants to upstage me in every aspect. With that being said, I’m getting married in the summer. Being that she is my sister I feel obligated for her to be Maid/Matron of Honor but at the same time, I can already anticipate her theatrics with the entire wedding process! My mom would die if it was even a THOUGHT that sis wouldn’t be my Maid/Matron of Honor but I don’t know if I can take her drama considering I’m already dreading it!!
Post # 2
Why don’t you just not have an MOH? You can just have all bridesmaids or no bridal party at all.
Post # 3
yeah just have bridesmaids. Your sister will survive and if she asks why she’s not Maid/Matron of Honor, just be truthful yet tactful.
Post # 4
You shouldn’t feel obligated to have anyone in your bridal party let alone designating one of them Maid/Matron of Honor just because Mom thinks that’s how it should be. Just have bridesmaids and if someone asks you should be able to be upfront about it. I’m sure everyone else has picked up in her behavior so it shouldn’t really surprise them.
Post # 5
I am an identical twin as well and completely understand where you are coming from. If my sister did not want be to be her Maid/Matron of Honor, I would be offended. Even if it is difficult, I think you should choose her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. When you are reminiscing, and looking at your old wedding photos, you’ll most likely wish she was there.
But that’s just my two cents! Do what you feel is best for your situation and good luck 🙂
Post # 6
I honestly don’t think it matters, whether she is in your wedding party or your Maid/Matron of Honor, either way you will probably have to deal with her theatrics.
I am a firm believer in you doing what you want to do and it is your wedding. But I think if you are going to have to deal with it already and your mom is going to be mad and it is going to create all sorts of issues then I would just have her be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I really don’t think that you will be able to avoid her theatrics so I would try to avoid more drama.
Post # 7
So my mother wasn’t asked to be in in her sister’s wedding 50 years ago. I still hear about how “Susan from next door” was a bridesmaid & not her. You know your sister, you know how much being in the wedding will mean (or not mean) to her. Also, I agree with PP no need for Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 8
I am on the No Maid/Matron of Honor wagon.
Post # 9
I am also a twin (but not identical) and had a little inner struggle with having her as Maid/Matron of Honor or not. I just know how irresponsible she is and I can’t 100% count on her to get things done. We have an older sister as well who I am much closer with, we are just more alike and like the same things. But at the same time my twin is who I have shared life with since the womb. We shared a room for 22 years of our lives. I may not always get along with her, but I know that she will always be there if I need her. So I decided to have 2 MOH’s, both my sisters.