(Closed) Twin sister is a nightmare!!!!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Why don’t you just not have an MOH? You can just have all bridesmaids or no bridal party at all. 

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

yeah just have bridesmaids. Your sister will survive and if she asks why she’s not Maid/Matron of Honor, just be truthful yet tactful.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

You shouldn’t feel obligated to have anyone in your bridal party let alone designating one of them Maid/Matron of Honor just because Mom thinks that’s how it should be. Just have bridesmaids and if someone asks you should be able to be upfront about it. I’m sure everyone else has picked up in her behavior so it shouldn’t really surprise them. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I am an identical twin as well and completely understand where you are coming from. If my sister did not want be to be her Maid/Matron of Honor, I would be offended. Even if it is difficult, I think you should choose her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. When you are reminiscing, and looking at your old wedding photos, you’ll most likely wish she was there.

But that’s just my two cents! Do what you feel is best for your situation and good luck 🙂 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I honestly don’t think it matters, whether she is in your wedding party or your Maid/Matron of Honor, either way you will probably have to deal with her theatrics. 

I am a firm believer in you doing what you want to do and it is your wedding. But I think if you are going to have to deal with it already and your mom is going to be mad and it is going to create all sorts of issues then I would just have her be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I really don’t think that you will be able to avoid her theatrics so I would try to avoid more drama. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

So my mother wasn’t asked to be in in her sister’s wedding 50 years ago. I still hear about how “Susan from next door” was a bridesmaid & not her. You know your sister, you know  how much being in the wedding will mean (or not mean) to her. Also, I agree with PP no need for Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I am on the No Maid/Matron of Honor wagon. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I am also a twin (but not identical) and had a little inner struggle with having her as Maid/Matron of Honor or not.  I just know how irresponsible she is and I can’t 100% count on her to get things done.  We have an older sister as well who I am much closer with, we are just more alike and like the same things.  But at the same time my twin is who I have shared life with since the womb.  We shared a room for 22 years of our lives.  I may not always get along with her, but I know that she will always be there if I need her.  So I decided to have 2 MOH’s, both my sisters.

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