(Closed) Twins Update

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

This is not your fault.  I know it’s hard but you can make it through this.  I knew a woman who had stillborn twins and she went on to have a beautiful baby boy!  Just give yourself time to heal and then try again when you are ready.

Post # 4
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how you feel! You are in my thoughts and best wishes in getting through this! ((HUGS))

Post # 5
7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry for your loss!. Its okay to cry! Definately consider counseling, there seems to be a lot going on in regards to you and the idea of pregnancy.

We have some awesome Bees on here who have lost little ones and they can be a great resource.

Hang in there, time is a healer!

Post # 6
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My SIL had a miscariage last October and got really depressed but they didn;t tell anyone about it until months later. They weren’t planning on trying for another few months and weren’t sure if they were ready for another one yet. She said that, “it’s what God wanted. He knew it would make us stronger and it has. We now know that no matter what happens, next time we get pregnant we will want and love the baby jo matter what happens.” 

This in no way is your fault. Things happen. Give yourself a chance to mourn your loss but then pick yourself up and know that it happened for reasons beyond your control. Next time I’m sure everything will be fine.

Post # 7
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Intellectually, I know you know that your thoughts didn’t bring about your m/c.  My heart goes out to you for the pain you are going to go through.  While it wasn’t good timing, you and your Fiance would have loved those babies, and you will still love them even though they can’t be in your arms.  Plant a tree (or two) in their honor so you have a physical reminder of their place in your lives, however brief.  It was a helpful way for me to create/nurture something physical after my m/c.  Take a few days, let the housework slide, see if a relative or friend can take the kids for a night or two, and hold your Fiance.  Then, it’s a matter of getting through the day and loving your family with all you have to give.  Also, work with your OB going forward about reliable longer term birth control, like an IUD.  ((Hugs))

Post # 9
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’m so sorry for your loss.  You did nothing wrong.  Give yourself whatever time and space you need to get through this.  I hope you and hubby can lean on each other to get through this.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Post # 10
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@MsTwins: As someone who has gone through a loss. I really do understand exactly where you are. It’s tough and even though it seems as though you will never get through the devistation, I promise it does eventually get easier.  Your questioning didnt cause this and more than likely niether did the drinking. Miscarriages happen for good reasons. Usually because the babies would have some type of damage that would not allow them to grow and live outside of the womb. 

I know that almost everyone who has a miscarriage thinks why me? It’s normal. If you need to talk you can PM me anytime during this process. Big hugs.

Post # 11
2907 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am so sorry to hear this! Sometimes struggling with the emotional part of the pregnancy can make the loss even more poignant. (At least that what my mother in law keeps telling me).

Be sure to let yourself grieve. And there are lots of us that have been through a loss and will e-mail with you frequently if it helps. Take care of yourself.

You’re in my thoughts.

Post # 12
5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry to hear this 🙁 I’ve also recently gone through this so I know how devastated you must be.

I know that it was hard for me to talk about it/tell people about it at the beginning too so that’s completely normal! It did get easier to talk about for me though…now I’m at the stage where I’m more comfortable with people who I interact with regularly knowing about it because it was obviously a huge event in my life.

Many bees have offered it before but we truly mean it when we say if you feel like you need to talk to someone who understands feel free to PM!

Post # 13
11075 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MsTwins: So soory you’ve gone through this and you’re feeling guilty, but remember what the doctors said – it wasn’t your fault.

@Running Elley: Sorry to hear this, I had no idea.

Post # 14
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012


Post # 15
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Running Elley:She’s right, please PM any of us if you need to talk/vent/ cry/ share with someone who’s been through a similar loss.


I am so sorry. It’s not your fault, but you will keep crying. Let yourself. It cried at least daily for about 2 weeks. Then I cried *almost* daily after that. And you know what, it didn’t make people think I was weak, it didn’t affect my friendships, and it helped me cope with the loss.


So, please, let yourself cry. Let your husband cry (if he can).


I am sorry for your loss.

Post # 16
5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry for your loss. Know that it was in no way your fault, and it is most definitely not a punishment for your uncertainty!  The way you’re feeling now is a completely normal response to such a loss.  Sending huge hugs your way.


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