(Closed) Twins with different last names

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I don’t know why because it has no impact on my life, but it makes me uncomfortable. 

Even having a different last name as my parents (my mom re-married) but the same last name as my sister created a few issues. 

Personally, I would prefer to have my children have the same last name as me and my husband. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

they are an “unconventional” family It seems. At first I would find it strange but wouldn’t give it much thought after that. My only concern would be if the children would grow up with any type of resentment.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I don’t think it matters, really. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

What if they have a 3rd kid? Are they going to flip a coin for who gets to use their last name with that one? And 1 twin is always going to get annoyed when someone just assumes he has the same last name as his brother when he’s addressed.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I find it really weird, but that’s just me. To each their own.

I have a family member with 5 kids. 3 have one name, 1 has another, and the last one has another too. I can never get them straight.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would hate having had a different last name from my sister growing up. Having a different name than my mom & step dad was bad enough! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I think it’s weird. I feel like it would create feelings (unintentionally obviously) of “your kid” and “my kid.”

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I think it’s lovely that they chose to do that.  Hopefully their children will grow up with the confidence and presence of mind to overlook whatever minor social inconvenience comes of it.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

 

I feel it’s going to cause a lot of confusion and endless explanations in the future. 

Why didn’t they just hyphenate if they wanted both names?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think by the time they hit first grade they are going to be sick of the question (both the parents and the kids) as to why they have two different last names.  I mean, I guess I understand the reasoning, and to each their own.  By the 8th person who asks me “Why did I do two last names?” my soap box is going to feel a bit well worn. 

Also, activites are going to be a pain.  Typically, they keep sibbling groups (twins, sibblings who are close enough in age) together on pee-wee league stuff so parents don’t need to make an extra trip.  Having to explain every time that you want your kids on the same team would be a pain. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I also thought immediately of it creating a “my kid your kid” dynamic

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think it’s kosher. Growing up, I knew a family who gave their girls two separate last names. I think they were irish twins too, and nobody ever found it weird. When a nosy classmate asked, they explained their parents thought that one name sounded better with one last name as opposed to the other and no-one ever thought anything else of it. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I think it’s awful. How do you ‘pick’ which one you wanted? This makes me super uncomfortable and if I was the kid id be asking why the hell the other parent didnt pick me. 

Sorry, I find this weird and I’d hate it. I would hate not to have the same name as my siblings. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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ukitali:  The fact that anyone would freak out about it is a big reminder for me of the sexist patriarchal history of women and children taking the man’s last name. It doesn’t matter in the slightest if these twins have different last names. 

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