Post # 1
I am having a hard time choosing between three women in my life. My “bridal party” only consists of two best friends and my older sister. I am having an intimate wedding outdoors. Do you think it makes sense to just make them all as my maids of honor? My fi also will just be having two or three of his friends – one is his brother. He is fine with calling them as his best men too. And then I would just ask my original moh-choice and his original best man-choice to make a speech.
Post # 2
I would either not have a Maid/Matron of Honor, or only have 1, because if you name them all Maid/Matron of Honor, but only ask one to give a speech, I think that could cause issues
Post # 3
Just skip the Maid/Matron of Honor title altogether.
Post # 4
Choose your sister or forgo the Maid/Matron of Honor title completely. I was in the same situation and picked my sister. It was an easy tie breaker.
Post # 5
“Honored Attendants”- all 3 of them.
Post # 6
If I were in your shoes I’d make my sister the Maid/Matron of Honor and have my best friends as BM’s. I’ve never known of someone having more than one Maid/Matron of Honor. That would seem odd to me.
Post # 7
I would just not have a Maid/Matron of Honor at all. It makes things more simple. If you truly feel you need one, have your sister be it. Friends can’t argue the blood relation card. I’m not getting married yet, but that’s what I plan on doing for less drama and simplicity.
Best of luck!
Post # 8
Either make them all bridesmaids or just have your sister as MOH- your friends should understand. If all of them are Maid/Matron of Honor then the title becomes meaningless.
Post # 9
Just have three bridesmaids! Or pick your sister. I think three maid of honours and no bridesmaids seems a bit ridiculous and will be really obvious that you couldn’t choose/didn’t want to hurt feelings
Post # 10
EDIT: My sister and I are not as close, she doesn’t like planning etc and my best friend of 11 years is a wedding coordinator AND is my actual best friend. I was also her moh.
I just would feel bad either way.
Post # 11
Your update changes everything. I would forgo the Maid/Matron of Honor title and have them all as maids.
Post # 12
I’m having 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 Bridesmaids. I don’t find it odd at all. I have two best friends (no sisters), so I wanted them both to be maid of honour and share the duties.
Post # 13
I have a big bridal party…8 to be exact. My sister is my maid of honor, one of my best friends is my other maid of honor, and my other best friend is my matron of honor. I couldn’t just choose 1 as I have different relationships with all 3. Looking back it was probably best just to have my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor to make it easier but I’ve already asked all 3 of them and it would be horrible to change it now and hurt someone’s feelings. It’s your wedding so do whatever you feel is appropriate.
Post # 14
you guys are so helpful, thanks. I just need others’ input to make up my mind.
Post # 15
if they’re all your maids of honor, then none of them are. You can’t have a “best” with nothing else to compare it with. Make them all bridesmaids.