(Closed) Two Best Men? Can it work?

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Fiance is having two best men, his brother and best friend. It doesn’t matter, as long as the people that mean the most to you are there with you.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had two Maids of Honor (my sisters).  My husband’s Best Man walked both of them down the aisle, which made for a cute photo, and they both gave a speech (actually they wrote and gave one speech together).  As to who would stand or sit next to the groom, I would have one stand next to him during the ceremony and the other sit next to him during the reception.  Or roshambo it.  Bucking tradition is not a big deal if your decision is personal and meaningful for you.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are having 2 best men. My Fiance couldnt decide between his 2 best friends jon and joe even though jon lives in another state. So he asked Jon to be his best man and he would help with most the best man duties during the few days before and the day of the wedding. Then he asked Joe to be Co-Best man and he would help with anything in the months before that would require him to help in person. This is working out because my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and one of my best friends is like the co-MOH. Only Jon and my sister would be giving the speeches but we also let the CO- MOH/Best man know that if they wanted to give one as well they could.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

My Maid/Matron of Honor had two best men in her wedding, her groom didn’t want to pick between his two brothers so they both were Bridesmaid or Best Man, totally doable!

They both gave speeches, they stood relative next to the best man (the tallest first, so that way there is no favoritism.) And the tallest walked with the Maid/Matron of Honor and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man walked with the next Bridesmaid or Best Man in line.

Regarding responsibilites, there really arn’t that many. Basically show up, hold a ring, and throw the bachelor party; IMO they can decide that among themselves 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

At the relatively last minute, my husband changed his mind about not asking his brother to be his Best Man.  (I suspect his mom had something to do with this…)  He asked his brother, in addition to his best friend whom he had already asked…leaving us with 2 Best Men.  In terms of the responsibilities, they actually didn’t divide most of them up.  The original Bridesmaid or Best Man threw the Bachelor party, carried my ring, walked down with the Maid/Matron of Honor, stood next to the groom.  The only thing that they really divided up was the toasts–both of them gave toasts at the reception.  Honestly, thinking back on it, I’m not really sure why The Hubs decided to do it, other than putting it in the program to make his mom happy. 😉

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2008

We had a small wedding party. Two on each side. I had two best men at my wedding. It was hard to choose between my two best friends so I chose them both. It went very well and they both performed the dutuies. I actually think that made it easier on the two of them. My wife had two matrons of honor as well.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Absolutely! There are no hard and fast rules about the bridal party anymore. I more than likely won’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor and I’m totally okay with that!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My Fiance has two best men and I have only one MOH!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are having 2 best men and only one Maid/Matron of Honor.

Best Man #1- his brother – will be standing next to him and signing as a witness

Best Man #2- his cousin – will be doing the toast

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