Post # 1
I am originally from Arizona but now live in Chicago which is where I met my fiance. We both have family here but I have a lot of family in Arizona too. I’m starting to think about bridal showers and wondering if it’s better to just have two of them? Any thoughts or other ideas? I’m new to this and my concerns are whether or not that will be too much work and whether or not that seems “high maintence” or entitled to have two.
Post # 3
The etiquette police will be here soon to assist you.
Post # 4
I’m sure the etiquette police will be after me soon too… but we are actually having a total of 5 showers. Family friends, family and friends of ours have all offered, we are just going to invite different groups of people to the parties that way no one is invited to multiple showers.
If it makes it easier on your family and friends to have a 2nd shower, then let people celebrate at 2 showers! Congratulations!
Post # 5
I *think* it’s not for you to worry. If someone offers to throw you one in both places, it’s up to you to accept. Usually you should accept only 1 (and maybe a work one), but this could be an exception. As long as someone (not immediate family per etiquette) offers to throw one for you.
Post # 6
@futuremrsrossol: I’m in the same city and having 2! One is a “fun” one with my friends. The other is a “church” one.
Post # 7
If someone in Arizona offers to host a shower for you, accept.
If someone in Chicago offers to host a shower for you, accept.
You will be the one who travels in such a case.
You need not put any more thought into your showers. Showers are hosted by someone other than the bride because that person wants to do so, not because they are asked or expected to do so.
Post # 8
Having two showers seems to be quite normal. Most people I know have two, either split by his family/her family or friends/family or where I currently live/where I grew up. It seems to be just easier on everyone.
Post # 9
if someone wants to throw you a shower, let them! the bride isn’t really supposed to throw the showers.
Post # 10
I agree with the others….if someone offers to throw you a shower in both locations, then accept!
Post # 11
Take into consideration, if you only have one, you may not get a lot of travelling guests simply for a bridal shower.. I dont think having two bridal showers would be a huge deal..
Post # 13
@futuremrsrossol: Good news! You don’t have to worry about this at all. If someone offers to throw you a shower, wherever it is, you are free to accept.
Post # 14
@futuremrsrossol: Has someone in both locations offered to host a shower for you? If so then I suggest having two. You will be the only one that has to travel and you won’t leave anyone out.
I had three bridal showers, all hosted by different people, to accomodate all my guests and their lcoations.
Post # 15
Thank you all for the advice. I hadn’t even thought about the shower yet until my maid of honor asked when I’d like to have it. That got me thinking about locations and logistics. I’m totally fine delegating this task. And letting others plan it/them. I just know there are people that will want to come but won’t be able to if I just have one and have it in Chicago. Just wondering what others in similar situations have done.
If you’ve had two showers and one was out of state, how did you get gifts home? I’m assuming shipping them but that seems like it could get expensive.
If you couldn’t tell, I’m a planner and like to have my bases covered 🙂