(Closed) two ceremonies?? please help

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: what to do??
    get married in puerto rico and dont be lazy : (4 votes)
    31 %
    get married in massachusetts and dont tell anybody : (8 votes)
    62 %
    other... post : (1 votes)
    8 %
    dont know : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If it were me, I would just get married in MA and throw your reception in Puerto Rico.  The only difference for me is that I would atleast inform your family.  I think your family might be upset or hurt if they were expecting to see a ceremony and then you show up “Suprise, we’re already married”!!!  If you at least warn them that your trip will only consist of a ceremony they would understand. 



    Post # 5
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    People will find out what you are trying to keep secret and will be very hurt and offended when they do. Either invite everyone to Mass. for the entire event or have your legal ceremony in PR and do what is involved there. Two ceremonies is not only expensive but it’s also more work for you to organize. People will have to travel no matter which you pick so just make it easier on everyone and have one ceremony and then move on with your married life.

    Post # 6
    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    i say marry in a civil ceremony a few days before you leave in MA if possible then go through the whole shebang in PR. if it’s more complicated to get officially married there, then i’d totally go the easy way. you can always use the PR date as your anniversary.

    a few other bees have done this as well so no worries. do what you think is best for you and your fi.

    Post # 7
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We got legally married in PR and it wasn’t that expensive. We got our blood tests done here in Maryland two weeks before the wedding (the earliest they can be done). Those came out to be around $50 but that was the copay from the insurance. Then in PR we went to a doctor in San Juan who charged us $20 for filling out the forms that have to be filled out by a doctor (we didn’t even have to present proof of insurance since it was just to do marriage paperwork). Then the stamp at the demographic registry was $20, and that was it…

    The most annoying part was the blood test, to be honest. One because I hate hate hate HATE needles, and two because it had to be done within two weeks of the wedding and we were pretty worried that we wouldn’t have our results ready by the time we were flying down to PR.

    Post # 9
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Really, the blood test thing is the most annoying part because they HAVE to be done within two weeks of the wedding date. If you’re flying down to PR one week before the wedding (like we did) that puts you in the conundrum of doing the blood tests at home and calling the lab every other day to hurry up the results, or doing it in PR as soon as you arrive and calling THEM every other day to hurry up the results 😛  But when choosing between those two options, you know it’s more likely to get the results on time over here in the States than it is down there in PR.

    You do need to get the paperwork beforehand. That way you’ll know what to ask for when you go to the doctor/lab to get the bloodwork done. There’s a page that has the info on what bloodwork is required, and then there’s the marriage license application that you have to bring with you to the doctor in PR with your blood test results. We got the paperwork from our officiant, who got it from the demographic registry office.

    After you have your blood test results, you go to a doctor in PR who reads them and certifies that you both pass the tests and signs the marriage license paperwork. Then you take that paperwork, and your blood test results, along with your birth certificate and photo ID to the office of demographic registry. Doesn’t have to be in the town you’re getting married, we did our paperwork in San Juan even though we got married in Arecibo. When you get there you go buy the stamp first, and then go to the marriage license window where they give you yet another piece of paper to fill out, then you hand it back with all the rest of your paperwork, and a few minutes later you have your legal papers stamped and all they need is the final signature from the officiant, you and the groom, and the two witnesses, which is done at the end of the ceremony 🙂

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