(Closed) Two Ceremonies

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You can consider doing it the old-fashioned way.

In the olden times, brides used to have an invitation to the church wedding, and then on a separate card that was about a half or a quarter of the size of the invitation would be the reception card. On this second card, you can write 

“Reception to follow” in a larger font, and then in a smaller font, centered below, 


Personal vows at sunset

Dinner & Dancing


People are going to be there for cocktails – they’re not going to disappear. You have a captive audience, so to speak – they want their dinner!

I don’t think you need to go into too much detail in the invitation because there is always the risk that people will skip the Catholic ceremony, so keep it somewhat of a mystery. On the other hand, I don’t think people will be too confused when it starts happening. Your FI’s father will probably say something like “And now, we gather to hear Jane and John exchange vows they have written themselves.” Anyone who doesn’t get it by that point is never going to get it, so don’t worry. 

Post # 5
28 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

A two ceremony solution is not a real option. The idea is that when you say your vows you make the marriage happen. Anything that would cast doubt on whether this moment or some other moment was the real expression of consent can cause many problems, so it is not allowed by the Catholic church. I guess the idea is that when you say “I DO” you mean it and you aren’t supposed to turn around a few hours or days from that say, oh never mind now I really mean I DO. This is how a preist explained this to us when we considered two ceremonies.

Post # 6
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@HisBride2Bee: I think if you make it clear that you are already married, but have more to say to each other, there is nothing wrong with exchanging personal vows. It’s not like you are getting married twice.

Post # 7
28 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jedeve: I was just mentioning how it was explained to me and my fiance when we considered doing something similar

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