- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So this is a very strange situation that I’m in.
My mother and biological father divorced when I was four years old. At that time he was so angry with my mother that he ended up putting my sister and I on the sidewalk with all of our things. Now, I don’t really remember this because I was very small and I’m assuming that it was quite traumatic for me. He thought my mother had replaced him.
It’s somewhat true that she did. She dated my stepfather, Michael, for a few years before marrying him. This man was my inspiration. He raised me. I replaced my real dad for him since I had no interest in a relationship with my biological father and he didnt really try to force it out of me (which I am incredibly grateful for). Michael passed away from cancer when I was 11. If he hasn’t passed away it would be no question.
Well after my stepdad passed away my dad and I started to both make more of an effort to have a relationship. Then my mom remarried again. My sister moved in with my biological father and I started to hate my mother and her new husband. My dad gave me a home when I didn’t want to be where I was. He would let me run away for a weekend and get away, and I was very grateful.
Frank and I get along pretty well too, but he has really bad arthiritis and can be very cranky. It’s been a rocky road with both dads. My mom thinks what my dad did was completely unforgiveable and he gave me away when I was 4 so he shouldn’t get to now.
I live with my mom and stepdad, but I don’t really talk to my stepdad a lot about real things, but we have a lot of fun together. My dad and I hardly see each other, but I feel like i can actually go to him with my problems. So I’m about as close to one as I am the other.
Now I’m getting married. The question is: who should walk me down the aisle? I don’t know what to do and some suggestions would be much appreciated. Thanks for reading all of that.