(Closed) Two Dads…

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Who should walk me down the aisle?
    My biological father : (2 votes)
    6 %
    My step-father : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Both fathers : (19 votes)
    54 %
    Neither- walk solo : (10 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    what about having one walk you half way and then the other meeting you mid aisle? I’ve seen that done before and thought it was lovely! Best of luck!

    Post # 4
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    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    what a joy to have two fathers!! I think you should definitely celebrate that!! let them both walk you down! how special!!!!!

    Post # 5
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    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    This is my situation too.  I am going to ask both of them to walk me down the aisle.  I don’t see anything wrong with that.  Both men are important in my life…more so my step dad.  I know my dad may not come to my wedding when he knows I am going to have my step dad do it too.  But my step dad means too much to me and has done more than my real father has, so I know that not asking my step dad is not an option (totally going to ask him this Father’s Day!).  I hope you decide to do what feels right to you whether it is 1 or both of your fathers or having them switch or neither.  

    Post # 6
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Neither or other… not because these men mean nothing to you, but because there’s no easy answer here and it might cause drama to choose one over the other. How is your relationship with your mom? It sounds like she’s been a part of your life the whole time, but it’s not really clear from what you’ve said. That might be something you want to think about, since it would probably bypass the possible drama of choosing one father figure over another. Either that or walk solo. I’m planning on walking with my fiance, so you could do that as well.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I agree with Beth1125. I’ve  been to two weddings where the stepfather walked the bride halfway, then “handed her off” to her biological father who walked her the rest of the way. It was very sweet. Or, if they get along okay, you could have one on either side of you. Since it sounds likes you’re close to both, I think it would be so nice to honor both.

    Post # 9
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    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m really glad I read this!!  I have almost the same situation for my wedding…I haven’t told my bio dad that my step dad will also walk me down the isle.  I’ve  never heard or seen one walk half way and the other the rest of the way…that sounds very nice, plus I think it will create less drama than having both walk the whole way down together. 

    My dad is the type who thinks because he’s my bio dad that he is entitled…even though he’s not dropping a dime on us or the wedding.

    I don’t wanna say I’m glad someone else has the same issue, but it makes me feel relieved and more comfortable knowing I’m not the only one.

    @Luckyinlove22 Your post has really helped me too!  Thanks!

    Post # 10
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    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would choose the one who didn’t run away because that’s what spells fatherhood to me.

    Post # 11
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    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I had a similar situation when I was married before.  I chose to have my mom walk me down.  When I, hopefully, get married again, I will probably walk by myself.

    Good luck and congratulations!

    p.s. I would do both or neither

    Post # 12
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    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m in this situation, too, and have chosen an option other than the one listed above. We’ll b walking down the aisle together. We’re doing this for lots of reasons. First, I don’t want to choose on and hurt anyone’s feelings. I also know I’d feel awkward walking between two guys who don’t really lik one another- and I’d rather minimize awkwardness. I’ve been living away from home for several years, anyhow, so it seems silly to me. Also, neither I nor my Fiance love the symbolism of “giving the bride away”- I’m not leaving my family, and I don’t belong to anyone (so how do they give me away?). For us, it is much more meaningul to walk into this big new stage of life together.

    I say all o this not to insult or berate brides whose dad’s walk them down the aisle. Walking with your dad or dads is lovely if it is what would make you mot comfortable, and if it is an expression of your love and care for one another. I’m just throwing another option out there, because having my dads walk me down the aisle just wasn’t a viable option.

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