Post # 1
By the way, my wedding was a great success… The only thing I’m annoyed with is the two bm who didn’t end up being in my wedding.
Ok, one of my bm texted two days before the wedding and said she might have step throat. She missed the rehearsal because she went to the doctors. I thought of this person as one of my really really close friends. I really wanted her there. She had a special diet at the wedding and I accomadated. I asked her if her husband was going to go and she said no, because he’ll feel awkward without her. (2 no shows)
The other one texted me the night before my wedding to say that she hit a deer and her car is really messed up and won’t be able to make it up to my wedding. (By the way, 2 adult no shows and 3 kid no shows)
Both reasons are reasonable and it’s unfortunate that they weren’t able to make it.
What I’m mad about is both of them TEXTED me to tell me they weren’t coming to the wedding. Ummm… I think they should have picked up the freaking phone for something this important. I have not spoken to them all at since. I’m still mad that they didn’t have the audacity to pick up the phone and apologize to me.
They have both commented and told me congrats on facebook but seriously? I thougth I was actually close to these girls and I just feel like they don’t think it was a big problem. (I admit, we figured out how to make it work)
Sorry just venting. Other than that I’m really happy about how my wedding came out and the rest of my bridal party really helped me out and that I am so so thankful for. I’m really happy about how my wedding turned out but I just have this annoyed and pissed feeling about the two bridesmaids who couldn’t come.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry, that must be so frustrating because you want to be so pissed but at the same time you feel bad for being pissed because they have valid reasons. I agree with you, they should have called instead of texting, I think technology has made us a rude society lol. Congratulations on your wedding though, I can’t wait to see pics.
Post # 4
((HUGS)) that bites that they didn’t call you…
Post # 5
First congrats on being married! Secondly I really cant believe this! Of course things happen people get sick or in car accidents. Honestly why they couldnt pick up a phone to tell you how sorry they were is beyond me! They were not just attending they were in the wedding party! If I couldnt make it to a friends wedding and was in the wedding party I would be calling and expressing how horrible I felt. Im sorry that is just crazy! Also, they didnt even call to congratulate you they sent messages on FB. Wow i would be really hurt.
Post # 6
Congratulations on your wedding!
I am sorry you had the no shows. The one with the strep throat might have a really sore throat and she might not be able to talk. Maybe she will call you later. The other one should have called you. If she is not shook up enough to not be on facebook, she had no excuse not to call you.
Post # 7
Yay, you’re married!
I’m sorry about the texts, I tend to agree with you that a phone call would have been better. Have you thought about telling them that this hurt you so much?
Post # 8
Maybe they texted instead of calling because they figured you’d be busy and didn’t want to interrupt. I don’t know, it still seems rude to me. Congratulations on your wedding!
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Oh man, that sucks. It totally sucks that they didn’t call you.
I had a friend with a good friend who no-showed her wedding, and then didn’t call or text or facebook. She later said she called while they were on their honeymoon, but didn’t leave a message (she knew they’d be out of the country and couldn’t have picked up the phone). She never apologized or explained what happened, just that “there isn’t a good enough excuse”. So think of it this way: they could have been a whole lot ruder!
Post # 10
Congratulations on the big day!
I understand your frustration. Maybe these girls were afraid to tell you over the phone that they couldn’t come? I know I have high anxiety when it comes to situations like this, and would be tempted to send the information in an electronic form of some sort (tempted, but I still wouldn’t!). I’m not saying that it is ok that they did it, but maybe it is the reason why?
Post # 11
I’m sorry they texted you. At least one of them had strep throat so she has an excuse….
Post # 12
Rude not to call, at the very least. Hopefully your day was wonderful otherwise.
Post # 13
I feel you – happened to me, except by a blackberry email. Thanks for the notice. Same with a few guests that had RSVP’ed – we are out their transportation costs($40/pp), but at least we don’t have to pay for their meals. Some I found out from the hotel, and didn’t even hear from the guests directly. Crappy. I agree, it’s not that they had extenuating circumstances, it’s that they were rude and just texted, vs a call. I’m sorry that happened and i’m glad you had a good day otherwise. Sometimes people do things that you would never in a million years do and we have to accept it. But live and learn for sure.
Post # 14
I know a few of you asked to see photos. Here they are. Thanks for everyone’s advice
My wedding photos- DIY & planned mostly by me
Post # 15
Love your pics. I can’t blame you for the texts. It annoying enough to eat the cost of the dinner… without anyone eating the actual dinner. And the way they handled it came across like it didn’t matter that much to them. Maybe you can talk to them later. Hopefully they can smooth things over with you.
Post # 16
that is so crappy of them. In all honesty…. I would think that if they were really sincere they would have called. Because they texted instead, it would make me discredit their stories and think it was all made up. The fact that they followed up with facebook comments is even worse, IMO.
boo to them…. but congrats to you! Happy married life =)