(Closed) Two days after wedding but still annoyed with my two bm who couldn’t come

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so sorry, that must be so frustrating because you want to be so pissed but at the same time you feel bad for being pissed because they have valid reasons. I agree with you, they should have called instead of texting, I think technology has made us a rude society lol. Congratulations on your wedding though, I can’t wait to see pics. 

Post # 4
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) that bites that they didn’t call you…

Post # 5
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

First congrats on being married! Secondly I really cant believe this! Of course things happen people get sick or in car accidents. Honestly why they couldnt pick up a phone to tell you how sorry they were is beyond me! They were not just attending they were in the wedding party! If I couldnt make it to a friends wedding and was in the wedding party I would be calling and expressing how horrible I felt. Im sorry that is just crazy! Also, they didnt even call to congratulate you they sent messages on FB. Wow i would be really hurt.

Post # 6
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Congratulations on your wedding!

I am sorry you had the no shows. The one with the strep throat might have a really sore throat and she might not be able to talk. Maybe she will call you later. The other one should have called you. If she is not shook up enough to not be on facebook, she had no excuse not to call you.

Post # 7
1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Yay, you’re married!  

I’m sorry about the texts, I tend to agree with you that a phone call would have been better.  Have you thought about telling them that this hurt you so much?

Post # 8
355 posts
Helper bee

Maybe they texted instead of calling because they figured you’d be busy and didn’t want to interrupt.  I don’t know, it still seems rude to me.  Congratulations on your wedding!

Post # 9
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Oh man, that sucks. It totally sucks that they didn’t call you.

I had a friend with a good friend who no-showed her wedding, and then didn’t call or text or facebook. She later said she called while they were on their honeymoon, but didn’t leave a message (she knew they’d be out of the country and couldn’t have picked up the phone). She never apologized or explained what happened, just that “there isn’t a good enough excuse”. So think of it this way: they could have been a whole lot ruder!

Post # 10
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Congratulations on the big day!

I understand your frustration.  Maybe these girls were afraid to tell you over the phone that they couldn’t come?  I know I have high anxiety when it comes to situations like this, and would be tempted to send the information in an electronic form of some sort (tempted, but I still wouldn’t!).  I’m not saying that it is ok that they did it, but maybe it is the reason why?

Post # 11
683 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry they texted you. At least one of them had strep throat so she has an excuse….

Post # 12
7495 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Rude not to call, at the very least.  Hopefully your day was wonderful otherwise.

Post # 13
3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I feel you – happened to me, except by a blackberry email.  Thanks for the notice.  Same with a few guests that had RSVP’ed – we are out their transportation costs($40/pp), but at least we don’t have to pay for their meals.  Some I found out from the hotel, and didn’t even hear from the guests directly.  Crappy.  I agree, it’s not that they had extenuating circumstances, it’s that they were rude and just texted, vs a call.  I’m sorry that happened and i’m glad you had a good day otherwise.  Sometimes people do things that you would never in a million years do and we have to accept it.  But live and learn for sure.

Post # 15
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Love your pics.  I can’t blame you for the texts.  It annoying enough to eat the cost of the dinner… without anyone eating the actual dinner.  And the way they handled it came across like it didn’t matter that much to them.    Maybe you can talk to them later.  Hopefully they can smooth things over with you. 

Post # 16
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

that is so crappy of them. In all honesty…. I would think that if they were really sincere they would have called. Because they texted instead, it would make me discredit their stories and think it was all made up. The fact that they followed up with facebook comments is even worse, IMO.

boo to them…. but congrats to you! Happy married life =)



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