Post # 1

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Helper bee
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
My e-ring is white gold and my wedding band is a 90+ year old platinum band. I read somewhere on this forum that having two different metals is bad and that it will eventually wear out (I’m assuming) the gold ring. What can I do? I asked a friend who works with a jeweler about plating my e-ring in platinum… But she said her jeweler usually recommends against this. I do not want to solder them together. What other options do I have? I would imagine having the same band remade in platinum would be pretty pricey. (Not sure though) so I’m just curious what other folks might have as suggestions?
Post # 3

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Buzzing bee
I’m going to have the same issue. I’ve never really gotten a good answer for it.
Post # 4

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Helper bee
Hmm I’ve heard it too. Not really sure.
Both my e-band and wedding band will be platinum.
But I do plan to get a rose gold band and another either white gold or platinum art deco band (the one that alternates circles and ovals) to stack eventually. (Future anniversary and/or push presents that i want NOW haha)
So I’ll still have the same issue. Not sure if there is any other solution besides soldering.
Post # 5

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Helper bee
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
Hmm yeah since the wedding band is an heirloom, soldering is totally out of the question. oh well guess ill just have to wear and wear it out and go from there unless someone has any suggestions. 🙂
Post # 6

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Helper bee
I’d get a spacer in your position.
Post # 7

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Bumble bee
Soldering isn’t permanent, and you can always separate the rings if you want to pass the band down or if you change your mind. Not sure if that changes anything, but it might factor into your decision.
Post # 8

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Bumble Beekeeper
What exactly will it do to the metals? That’s what I’m wondering.
Post # 9

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Helper bee
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
@Rubbs: I’m sure just wear away the metal
Post # 10

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Busy bee
@kittywolf13: I would refer to a jeweler for that question.
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
The store where we bought the jewelry told us that it will just need to be redipped sooner – my engagement band is platinum and wedding band is white gold. We’ve had issues w/ the jewelry store, so not sure how legit it is, but I believe it. They did try to dissuade us from ordering a wedding band specially made, maybe b/c it wouldn’t be purchased that day? I have no idea. It was a lot cheaper. I wear my rings together aobut 50% of the time, and like to be able to separate them so soldering is out for me.
Post # 12

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Helper bee
Would you mind wearing your engagement ring on your right hand? You can also buy a thin sterling silver band in between them to protect your engagement ring from getting worn down.
Post # 13

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Busy bee
I have a ring with a platinum shank but 18ct gold basket. I was planning to get a platinum wedding band with a little notch in it to go around the basket part and am hoping because it will sort of be secured in that way (ie less likely to move or spin around) that it would be better, but that’s just my theory!
Post # 14

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Blushing bee
My e-ring is 14kt white gold and my wedding band is platinum. I’ve been wearing them together some 12/12/12. So far so good.
Post # 15

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Bumble Beekeeper
@kittywolf13: i was told not to mix metals. platinum is strong and gold/white gold is not.
1. white gold you have to have dipped. when it is first dipped, it may match the platinum but it will yellow over time. depending on your skin chemicals, it may happen faster or slower than others.
2. gold /white gold is softer. if you weigh a gold ring today and then 10 years from now, it will weigh less. if things run against it, it loses pieces of itself. a platinum ring will weigh the same today and 100 years from now.
it was highly recommended to me by jewelers and almost everyone on the bee board when i posted this to not mix metals. since my ering is platinum, they highly recommended i get a platinum band.
Post # 16

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Busy bee
It’s just something that happens to all gold rings because of how soft the metal is. Whether you wear the two rings together or not, the gold ring will wear down eventually and lose it’s shine. That won’t make it “ugly” or any less special. It will just age – like we do. 🙂