(Closed) Two Dress Bride? No! Two Shoe Bride!

posted 8 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: What should I do about shoes?
    Wear white for ceremony and red for reception (and tell Mom about my plan) : (22 votes)
    30 %
    Wear white for ceremony and red for reception (but don't let Mom in on the idea) : (29 votes)
    39 %
    Just wear white shoes and keep mom happy : (0 votes)
    Just wear red shoes : (23 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Personally I like the idea of colored shoes (Even though I got white for myself).  I think you have a good idea though… that way you and your mom both get what you want.  🙂

    Post # 4
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think that’s a great compromise. Saying that I would maybe not tell her just in case she doesn’t see it the same way 😉

    Post # 6
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    3363 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    It might help to show her some pictures of brides with colored shoes so she can see how common it is.  My mom was very traditional in weding planning, and I pushed as far as I could.  In the end, she was saying things like “Oh, I just didn’t understand what you meant.”  Or “I just never saw that before.”

    But she liked the ideas once she saw them in person.

    I love the red shoes!!

    Post # 7
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    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would go with the red…they’re way cuter! = D And it will be nice to have that pop of color!

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Definitely go with the red shoes. They’re way cuter and way more fun.  Just because your parents are paying for the wedding doesn’t mean they get to dictate EVERYTHING. That sounds really controlling to me. I mean, what you wear is as personal a decision as it gets.  if it were me i would just wear what i want no matter my mom’s opinion, (especially on something as harmless as shoes).

    Post # 10
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    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i’m wearing ivory shoes for the ceremony and then switching to brown for the rest of the evening. i like a little bit of tradition and then a little “new”

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Yea my mom was almost the same way, theyve just been out of the wedding “business” for so long they don’t realize what everyone does now! My mom didn’t even know what a save the date is or that people don’t wear veils anymore. At first she was skeptical but now she loves all the ideas! I would involve her in your inspiration 🙂

    Post # 12
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    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would sit down and talk with your mom about it, I understand its her dime but its your wedding. I would just let her know you really want red shoes. If that doesnt work then I would go with the red during the reception and the white for the ceremony and just kinda keep it a surprise. You have to have a part of you shine in the wedding. Good luck girly!

    Post # 13
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    haha, my mom was the same way, in thinking that any other color than white or ivory would be completely unnacceptable. I really want to wear blue shoes to match the bridesmaid dresses, but when I mentioned it to my mom, she was horrified. I am on the fence as whether or not you should tell her. It might be better to keep quiet about it until the big day, since that will prevent her from thinking about it and getting worked up. And hopefully when you are actually in the moment, she will see how happy they make you and get on board with it.

    Post # 14
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I got around this because my mom is paying for our wedding too. She said no because she wouldn’t buy colored shoes. So, I bought them outta of my own pocket and now she can’t say anything about it. When she brings it up I say “You didn’t pay for them, so you really have nothing to be upset about.” Thought I’m trying to dye them dark purple and they just aren’t coming out right. :-/

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    The red shoes are cute and would be nice for the reception. As to whether or not to tell your mom in advance, I would say it depends on how she is. Some moms if not told in advance would be happier- once the reception is going and you’re wearing them, not much she can do about it and let it go. Other moms might be better knowing in advance so they have time to get used to the idea o they aren’t upset at the wedding.

    If not telling her would “ruin” the reception for her, I would tell her in advance. Otherwise, I’d let it be a surprise.

    Post # 16
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    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Agree with above. I LOVE your red shoes and think that you should wear the white for the formal wedding part, and then have some fun with the red during the reception. I think once she saw you were so happy in the red, and had such a great time, she would be happy and liken to the idea of colored shoes.

    Agree, that if your mom is going to be totally bummed about not knowing, you should prep her, and tell her why you really want it, and show her all these posts, and bridal pics of colored shoes. It’s just the in thing.

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