(Closed) Two Dress Bride? No! Two Shoe Bride!

posted 9 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: What should I do about shoes?
    Wear white for ceremony and red for reception (and tell Mom about my plan) : (22 votes)
    30 %
    Wear white for ceremony and red for reception (but don't let Mom in on the idea) : (29 votes)
    39 %
    Just wear white shoes and keep mom happy : (0 votes)
    Just wear red shoes : (23 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 17
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    Blushing bee

    MAYBE IT’S JUST ME BUT I WOULD NOT EXPLAIN A  THING TO HER!! You are a grown woman!!!!! PERIOD!  you are about to get married…come on…mommy no longer gets to pick out your outfits!!! i’m sorry but that is just way too controlling for me.  who’s wedding is it any way?  she had her turn already!!

    Post # 18
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    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Ah, I’m SO GLAD I’m not in touch with my mom 😉 I couldn’t put up with that much pressure!!

    Post # 19
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    4381 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I love the red ones. A good compromise would be to wear the red shoes for everything but the ceremony, but have the white ones on for that?

    Post # 20
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    3613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Just wear the red ones and don’t tell mom! She’ll probably see them in the reception and then in the happiness of the moment find them quiet charming. I had three dresses and didn’t tell ANYONE about the third one until the day after the wedding, as my mom and Mother-In-Law were alreay shocked I bought a second dress. After the wedding Mother-In-Law and SIL were asking me “wasn’t your second dress supposed to be champagne colored, how come you wore two white dresses” and I was like “um, yeah, surprise!”. After the fact people are so happy noone cares, all they keep talking about is how wonderful the wedding was.

    Post # 21
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    424 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m wearing my ivory shoes for the ceremony, and changing into my blue shoes for pics/reception, that way I can wear both pairs. I think that’s an excellent idea. I wouldn’t tell her, either.

    Post # 22
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    436 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    My mom vetoed a lot of my non-traditional wedding ideas (photobooth, non-matching bridesmaid dresses, red velvet wedding cake, etc) but afterward was happy with how everything turned out.  Wear your red shoes at least to the reception.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    People gave me the same comments when I bought my wedding shoes – some people will be horrified, others will know that it’s totally you… and at the end of the day, the day is about you and your hubby, so do what you want!!!

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    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I like the red shoes…I agree with other posts…go with the white for wedding and some pics but get some of the fun/candid pics with the red shoes and definatly wear them at the reception!  May as well have some fun with them.

    Post # 25
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    102 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Love the red shoes!! What brand are they?

    Post # 26
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I love the red shoes!!! I understand that this is difficult b/c your mom is paying and I think that does give her certain rights, but I agree with whomever said that you could show her photos of how much more common colors are now.  I can see her having rights on how expensive invites are, where its held and who is invited, but I think she should let you pick your own clothes!!!  I’m having shoes dyed the same shade of blue as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and my mom thinks I’m nuts, but our parents aren’t paying a dime and I’m too old to care. 

    Post # 26
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I love the red shoes!!! I understand that this is difficult b/c your mom is paying and I think that does give her certain rights, but I agree with whomever said that you could show her photos of how much more common colors are now.  I can see her having rights on how expensive invites are, where its held and who is invited, but I think she should let you pick your own clothes!!!  I’m having shoes dyed the same shade of blue as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and my mom thinks I’m nuts, but our parents aren’t paying a dime and I’m too old to care. 

    Post # 27
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    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    has your mom seen pictures of weddings with colored shoes? 

    my mom thought the idea was weird, but had to admit after seeing some pictures it was acutally not bad at all…  maybe show her some? 

    Post # 28
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Personally I think that even though your mom is paying, it’s YOUR wedding and if you have something you really want (within reason) then go for it. Good luck!!

    Post # 30
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    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Personally, I’d just go with the red. I’m a red shoe bride all the way! Red is my favorite color so I always knew I wanted red shoes. If you’re concerned about making your Mom happy though, you could wear the white shoes for the wedding and red to the reception as a compromise. It’s probably best to let her in on your plans though so she doesn’t get hurt or upset at the reception when she finds out.

    Post # 31
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    575 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    At first, my mom was also not sold on the idea of colored shoes, but once I brought a bunch of colored shoes to her house to get her opinion, she realized there was no other option. 🙂 Now she loves this idea. I’m sorry to hear that your mom was not budging. What did you end up doing?

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