Post # 1
I always wanted a flowy tulle dress but the ones I could saw at salons didn’t have that dreamy ethereal look I was going for. In the end, I found a dress at a trunk show that looked the best out of all the ones I’d tried, and my friends + fiance pressured me into getting it. So I did (I know, I know). It’s a beaded ballgown and it was under budget. It would also be partially custom to accomodate my smaller measurements. This is the only picture I can find of it:
Very recently we received some bad news and are now changing our plans from a traditional US wedding to an elopement on our own or with a very small guest count (10-20). We would save a lot of money even if we were to do it in Italy, and we’re loving that idea. Thing is, I just discovered MywonyBridal on Etsy and they make the exact kind of dresses that I wanted. I am really kicking myself now, because they have many beautiful dresses and for less than what I paid!
I’m pretty sure there’s a no-return policy on dresses with custom measurements. We put down the initial payment in August, and haven’t heard anything yet about the progress. I’ll try asking the manager but I am not optimistic. Worst case, our budget would allow for me to buy the $900 Etsy dress, but I feel selfish for thinking about that. What do you think? My fiance suggested wearing the original dress for the church ceremony and the second for the rest of the day. I really don’t know if I am being too self-centered.
Post # 2
I’d sell the first dress (if you can’t cancel it) and get the second
Post # 3
See if you can cancel buying the first dress (you’ll still lose the deposit) or if you have to pay in full then try sell it? If you buy a second dress that you love more then I don’t see the point in wearing both. Either save your money and wear the one you have the whole day, or buy the one you want and wear that the whole day.
Post # 4
Just sell the first dress if your measurements are pretty similar to a standard size fitting. You won’t get full price back, maybe half? But it will be new and never worn so hopefully someone would buy it.
Or wear the first dress at your ceremony and a more colorful dress from the etsy shop at your reception. That’s very common in Asia, brides have multiple dress changes throughout the night.
Post # 5
laurelwreath : buy the second dress. ISince your budget allows, your partner is on board and you really love it: GO FOR IT!
(and don’t worry a minute about being self centered on day of with two dresses, your man seems unfazed and nobody else is gonna even care)
ETA: Do I think it’s a little self indulgent? Yes. Do I think you should do it anyway? Absolutely!
(the only thing I would worry about is a bee did report international travel with a wedding dress they charged her customs fees. I think it is rare and most likely wont happen, but as you have two dresses with you it would be best to think about that in advance)