Post # 1
I’ve never liked my first name. SO does, but I don’t.
I’ve already decided (he’s had the ring for a month, so I’ve had a bit to think about it) that I’m going to take his last name, Wolfe.
My first name is Amber. It’s always seemed trashy and bimbo-y to me, and I actually dated a guy once who, when I told him I disliked my name, actually said, “Why? Because it’s a stripper name?” I pretty much cringe whenever I hear my first name, and it’s been like that for awhile, for a variety of reasons. Put it with my new last name, and to me it sounds like an endangered species of some sort. Maybe someone knows a way to help me love the name Amber? I’m all ears; it’d certainly make the paperwork easier.
But I also worry that people will think it’s weird that I am changing my first name. I thought about taking my middle name to make it a little less weird. It’s Nicole. I don’t love it, but I don’t hate it like I do Amber. I worry that it might be too old-fashioned, though. Or some other really negative association that hasn’t occurred to me yet.
Bees, what do you think? Amber Wolfe, Nicole Wolfe, or (open to suggestions) Wolfe? And why?
Post # 3
I like your first name and think you should keep it. If you really hate it, though, might I suggest Julie? 😛
Post # 4
It’s a kickass song by 311…
Post # 5
Do you go by amber? I know girls who go by their middle name in everyday life so I dot think itS e weird to change it legally but If the world not just your parents know you as amber it might be super complicateD
Post # 6
@EffieTrinket: I once had a boss who had changed her first name to her middle name, took her maiden name as her new middle name, and took her husband’s last name. She had a very old fashioned first name and an extremely cool middle name, so this decision worked very well for her.
I think Amber is a beautiful name, and I also love Nicole. However, YOU need to be happy with your name, and no one else should criticize you for deciding to make the switch to your middle name. In fact, it’s very understandable that someone who dislikes her given first name would decide to go by her middle name. The fact that you would be pairing this change with taking your husband’s last name makes perfect sense to me. Afterall, why would you change your name twice, in two different stages, when you could make one, sweeping change with both the changes occurring simultaneously?
Post # 7
My dear I think you should keep your name. maybe allow for a nickname to develop?
When googling such though most popular were Amy ( I am partial to this one for familial reasons) and Ams (pronounced Aims)
Post # 8
@Juliepants: I think the OP should consider your “last” name instead. I think “Amberpants” Wolfe has a nice ring to it! Sorry, I couldn’t resist!! Hahaha!
Post # 9
@LaTortuga: I like the idea of this. I feel like changing a first name would just throw everyone for a loop. Ams is totally cute.
Post # 10
@Brielle: That’s wild, because I had a friend in high school who called me Amberpants.
Post # 11
I am strongly leaning toward making my first and middle a double 1st name (which my mother almost named me, actually), making my maiden name my middle name, and taking FI’s last name.
I say go for it, if you have never liked your name, there’s no better time to change it!
Post # 12
@EffieTrinket: Really?! Hahaha! I couldn’t resist making that joke, since Juliepants had teased you about taking Julie as your name!
Post # 13
I’d honestly keep my name. I don;t like my name either but it’s what your parents named you.
Post # 14
If you really hate your first name then I think you should certainly change it. Even if you do go by a nickname you’ll still hear Amber for official things (vows!!!, passports etc).
I realise that going by Nicole would make it “easier” on everyone else, but if you don’t love that name then I think you should just go for a whole new one. You have to live with it and I think you should love it.
YES people will have a hard time adjusting, YES some people may think it weird. But in 5 (if that!) years you will be Nicole (or X name) and no one will question it. I would suggest changing the name (at least personally, not legally) ASAP so that by the time the wedding rolls around everyone knows you as X.
Perhaps others would think this is weird but if I were to change my name I would really want my SO to pick it. Obviously I would have to like it too, but I think he should have a big say in it. Of course, some people are more independent/head strong than I am so they might feel differently, but I think it would be really special if he picked it.
Post # 15
i hate my first name and love my second, but the world knows me as the first so i will keep that. if your known as amber id say keep it if your known as nicole id say change it
Post # 16
@Brielle: @EffieTrinket: Haha, I love it! My first name isn’t even Julie, I was just being goofy.