Post # 1
I have been having a hard time choosing my Maid of Honour. I have had a very close friend since I was in grade school that I have stayed so close with that we roomed in university together.
She recently took a job in Korea and will not be around for the planning or organizing for the wedding.
She will be attending though.
I have another VERY close girlfried that lives in the area and is without a doubt going to be in my wedding party. I think she would make a perfect Maid/Matron of Honor due to the fact that she is local and able to fulfuill all of the duties a Maid/Matron of Honor is responsible for.
I am having trouble choosing? I dont think choosing is the right word, but I am having a hard time.
I am wondering if anyone has had two maid of honors at their wedding? And how they went about announcing it?
Any input is appreciated!
Post # 3
Why not! There is no rule to say you can only have one Maid/Matron of Honor, and it sounds like both these ladies deserve the honour. Just make sure you tell each Maid/Matron of Honor that there is another Maid/Matron of Honor – if they are good friends they won’t mind!
Post # 4
People are doing away with the traditions and that includes the possibility of having two MOH’s. Some people will probably bring up that a Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t really have any other duties but just to show up and stand by you at the alter though, watch out.
Post # 5
I’m not having two MOHs, but I don’t see what’s wrong with them! What do you mean by announcing it? Announce it the same way you’d announce your bridesmaidS, but say Maid/Matron of Honor instead: “This is bridesmaid Katie and Bridesmaid Lisa, this is Maid of Honor Jenna and Maid of Honor Sarah”
Post # 6
I have a friend who had two, I say do whatever you want!!
Also… I’m sorry but I’m an English teacher and I have to say… it’s “Maids of Honor/Honour” 🙂 That is with all kindness possible!!!
Best of luck, let us know what you do!
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Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
No reason you can’t have two- I’m having two matrons of honor- one of whom lives 3+ hours of me- there’s a lot of planning that can be done via e-mail.
Wasn’t sure either what you mean by announcing- my DJ is announcing them both at the same time.
Post # 9
@allegrovivo: Annoucing it so that my wedding guests know I have two great girlfriends, and unfortunately one was not able to be around to help with my planning and organizing. I want to make sure the girl (MOH#1) that has worked her little butt off shines and gets the credit that is deserved to her. Not that my other girlfriend (MOH #2) doesn’t deserve it but she has not put in the work #1 has.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@joiner20: Since you want #1 to have an elevated status, make her Maid/Matron of Honor and the other friend a bridesmaid.
Post # 11
My two first cousins (sisters who are 25 and 21) are both MoH in my wedding. I agree about the doing away of traditions. They are both 500 miles away, also, so won’t be doing much other than being moral support and the ones I bounce ideas off of.
Post # 12
absolutely nothing wrong with having 2 maids of honor. BUT i would be careful not to give the impression that you only asked your local friend to be maid of honor just so you’d have someone to do everything for you.
i have a friend who was one of two maids of honor for her friend’s wedding. the other maid of honor was the sister of the bride and lived several states away. my friend did everything for the bride: threw her a shower, planned the bachelorette party, helped with anything and everything. at the rehearsal dinner, the bride introduced her wedding party. when she introduced the sister she went on and on about how close they were, how much she loved her, etc…and then she introduced my friend and said, “this is jane. and she’s my other maid of honor because my sister lives so far away.” nothing about how long they had been friends or how much their friendship means to her, no thank you for all my cousin did…my friend was really annoyed and hurt by that.
i’m not saying that the only reason you want 2 maids of honor is just so you can have someone there all the time. i would just be careful not to make the local girl feel that way to avoid any hurt feelings or awkward situations 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t see why you shouldn’t have them both. I’m having two maids of honor – one is my best friend from high school the other my best friend from college. I love and adore them both and I couldn’t imagine not having them both at my side on equal footing on that special day. So I say go for it.
Post # 14
Just so you know I have no problem with it especially because I have 2 maid of honors! My twin sis and my best friend! They have no problem with both of them holding the title and I didn’t want to have to choose. GO FOR IT! It’s your wedding!
Post # 15
I am having 2. Technically they are Matrons of Honor, but the same idea. My SIL and my BFF. I knew both would have equal parts in helping me plan and both have different strengths. I didn’t think it would be fair to single out just one. And to make it easy for standing/processional order BFF will be with the Best Man and SIL will walk with my brother (her husband).