(Closed) Two maids of honor and one bridesmaid vs one maid of honor and hurt feelings?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It seems obvious your nearby friend should be Maid/Matron of Honor and the other two bridesmaids.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

0 maids of honor, 3 bridesmaids, and everyone acts like grown ups. No one needs special recognition. The guests don’t need to know who planned the bachelorette party or helped zip your dress. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

If you have two Maid/Matron of Honor you will have two unhappy people. If you have one Maid/Matron of Honor you will have one unhappy person. Seriously. Might as well not have one vs having two. They will both be miffed that you couldn’t decide. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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clinkingglasses :  just have bridesmaids. You don’t need a Maid/Matron of Honor. You can thank your friend for her help in another way. I also think it’s a bit odd to ask someone to be Maid/Matron of Honor over someone else based on their organisational skills. Surely it would be whoever is most dear to you?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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Horseradish :  excellent advice here. I completely agree. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

3 bridesmaids, no Maid/Matron of Honor.

Have them line up during the ceremony by height so there’s no “preferential treatment”, it’s solely by height so the photographs look balanced. The programs (if you’re having ceremony programs printed) can be listed in alphabetical order, or if you know already the height order.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Why can’t they all just be bridesmaids? My Fiance has 3 groomsmen and no best man because he didn’t want to choose between them (whilst I have my sister as MOH).

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Echoing PPs, I’d just make them all bridesmaids. No need to choose one to be Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yep, all bridesmaids. If my sister hadn’t have been my Matron of Honor, I would have made all my girls bridesmaids and not had a Maid of Honor because I know it would have hurt people’s feelings if I made anyone other than a blood relative my Maid of Honor.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I just had two bridesmaids. No need for a Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I agree that you do not need Maid of Honor. I decided not to have one because everyone thinks they are the closest to me and I do not want any hurt feelings if I pick one and not the other. I decided to just have 6 bridesmaids. 3 sisters, my elementary bff, my highschool bff, and my college bff.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I personally don’t think these titles matter much.  The only reason I have a Maid/Matron of Honor is because my sister wanted to be a Maid/Matron of Honor.  Otherwise, I’d just have them all be bridesmaids as I’m super tight with the three other ladies I’ve asked to be in the wedding.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I’d either have them all be bridesmaids or all maids of honor. No need to differentiate (and I sort of don’t get why people do that to begin with). 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Three bridesmaids, no ranking in titles. For who signs the license as witness, they draw straws or throw rock paper scissors.

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